Ex-Girlfriend added me on instagram

[JonathanBloom]

Ever since we broke up there has been this fire burning between me and my girlfriend because I didn't take the breakup well and I was annoying her but I got better and I'm forgetting about her but feelings are still there, I don't bother her or anything. She had me blocked everywhere and after me sending a real apology letter on facebook she unblocked me on Instagram, I though she wanted to talk so I sent her request because shes private and she just accepted and didn't follow back and when she did that I texted her on facebook and she didn't even open it (this was last week) and since she didn't follow me 3 days later I unfollowed her, and right now 3 days later she liked video of mine playing piano and she followed me, but I don't know if I should fullow her again or not, I have been trying to ger her back but I feel like shes playing games and I don't have time for that anymore, I chased after her and did so many stupid things lol, so I'm kinda confused what is she up to, honestly I really cared about her but her actions kinda make me not like her anymore, because I don't know, if she is being shy or she just doesn't know what to say or what. I would appreciate your guys help a lot

[Lily]

You can follow her again but don't initiate any communication. Let her be the one to establish communication, that way, you will gain more superiority over her.

[Evelyn]

The first response of many men when they are trying to win back a lost love is to contact her to try and persuade her to come back. Some men do this over the phone by leaving message after message, others send long letters or emails to their ex. Neither of these approaches is going to get you what you want. There's a very good chance that if you bombard your ex with pleas of getting back together, that she's going to distance herself even further from you. Don't do it.

The best thing you can do when you are considering how to get back an ex girlfriend is to appear as though you're moving on too. If a woman knows you are sitting patiently waiting for her, she's going to feel comfortable taking her time getting back with you. If she senses that you are open to the idea of getting involved with another woman, it's going to weigh on her and make her think more and more about you. If you can control your emotions around your ex, and you can seem okay with the split, you stand a much better chance of getting her back for good.

[Bradwin]

Things are never easy after going through a break up or a divorce. There are a lot of mixed feelings coming from both parties, and emotions are running high. To make matters worse, you're not thinking clearly and your former partner isn't making things easy for you. In fact, you find yourself asking why your ex might be playing mind games with you. Actually, there are a few possibilities that may explain their behavior.

They're just testing you. While the motivations for doing this can vary, what this possibility comes down to is this: they want to see how you will react. Maybe it's their way of finding out how you feel about them, or maybe not. The best you can do is be yourself, and roll with whatever comes your way.

To harass you. As the old saying goes: nobody is perfect. That means you and your ex fall short, so try to keep that in mind. See, while it's not cool, there is always a chance that the reason why your ex might be playing mind games with you is because they want revenge. It's their way of harassing you for some wrong you've done. Of course you probably have no idea what you did that could have been so wrong, but that doesn't matter to your ex.

They don't really know they're doing it. In other words, their game playing is so much a part of who they are that they have no idea they're doing it. That doesn't change what's going on, but it should give you enough perspective to accept the behavior for what it is, and to not take any of it personally.

They want you back. Sometimes it's hard for an ex to ask you if you'd like to try again. So, instead of being direct, they start playing games. It can be hard to tell if this is why they're acting this way. It may be a bit risky, but if you suspect a desire.

They're not, you just think they are. Let's face it, people are funny. Your ex may not be playing any kind of games with you at all, but you perceive it differently. All of those little things they're doing to toy with you and get under your skin are not intentional. Instead, you are assuming they have ulterior motives where none actually exist.

As you can see, there is more than one answer to the question of why your ex might be playing mind games with you. The reason it's important to understand why is that it can help you decide what to do next.