Want my ex fiancé back

[Beckym]

I have recently split up from my ex fiancé of 7 years was engaged 6 years. Nearly 2 years ago we brought a house together with a mortgage which we had to fight for because of his credit score. For the last few months we haven't been getting on as well for different reasons including him working and staying away with work. He initially told me he wasn't happy but wouldn't tell me why but a week later he said we were over. After another 2 weeks he finally opened up and told me was for 3 reasons: not enough affection, not enough appreciation and too much nagging. These issues in my opinion are fixable if he just lets me try which is the issue as he won't try again. He says I had my chance in the first week when he told me he wasn't happy but I don't think that was a fair chance as I didn't know what the issues were. I think part of his not enough affection issue was because he felt he wasn't getting it from me but he was getting it from random girls on snapchat and Instagram. I have been devastated by the split and even suicidal on a number occasions when the ambulance and police have been called. I've told my ex about this each time and I think it's pushed him further and further away which I truly regret. He has been home once during the split where he gave me the chance to read him a letter I had written. He is still adamant that he is doesn't want me anymore and wants to move on. But my opinion is that i deserve one more try before I accept it as the reasons for the split are easily fixable. I gave him space from last Saturday until Friday when he agreed that he would come home to collect some stuff but wasn't staying over which I thought was a step in the right direction. But me being be bombarded him with texts again including suicidal thoughts which pushed him away further and he didn't come home last night and has blocked me so my only form of contact is email. Any advice of how to get him back again just to try and hopefully respark our relationship????

[Julia]

No matter what you've heard, a broken engagement is not necessarily a failure nor is it always final. You are heartbroken and it will take time to heal and recover from heartbreak. You might feel that a dark cloud is hanging over your head right now, but the gloom will lift once you get your fiance back in your life again.

It is vital that you give yourself time to grieve. But as soon as you pull yourself together and have the strength, take the steps below to get your fiance back into your life.

Calling off an engagement is devastating and painful, no matter who called it off. But as long as your fiance still has feelings for you, it is possible to restore the engagement and the love you once had for each other.

Take these 3 steps to heart and you will get your fiance back

1. Accept the fact that it takes two to break an engagement, even if only one of you actually ended it. Without a doubt, there were signs of trouble that the two of you ignored and neglected to resolve. Avoid playing the victim as this will make your fiance stay away. Instead, showing that you are strong will make you attractive to your fiance.
2. Not surprisingly, a battered self-esteem is an unfortunate consequence of a broken engagement. You can restore self-confidence by pampering yourself. So go ahead and take the trip you've always wanted to. A change of scenery will do amazing things for your emotional state. Also, there's no better time than now to acquire a new look. Get off the couch and exercise to get a new, lean body. Show it off and watch your fiance's jaw drop!
3. You must give yourself time to heal and for your fiance to miss you. Keep a distance from your fiance and mingle with supportive friends and family instead. Before you know it, your fiance will be calling you for a date to reset the relationship.

Are you sure you want to get your fiance back?

Make an effort to detach yourself from the pain and determine whether getting back together is the right thing to do. This is a serious decision to make, so be honest and ask yourself the tough questions. Take your time and don't rush it.

[Nicolas]

Most women actually push their loved one further away because they say and do completely the wrong thing after a break up. Please do not let this happen to you. Neediness and insecurity will kill any sparks between you and him quicker than water over a flame.

Let me tell you about Sarah. I spent a while advising her a while back after her marriage broke down. She couldn't understand why he had left her. In order to fix things she told me she had:

1. Begged him to stay

2. Bought him gifts

3. Said "I love you" over and over

4. Promised to change and be different in future

Now this may sound harsh, but what she was doing was playing the part of the 'human doormat.' No wonder her husband could no longer see the fun loving free spirit she used to be.

Here's how to get your ex husband back after separation - use mind control! OK, I know you think this sounds crazy but it's really not. You see, when I say mind control, I really mean that I want you to influence his subconscious mind and you can do this using various techniques like NLP (otherwise know as neuro-linguistic programming).

Confused? Basically, that means you can get your husband back after separation by saying and doing things that secretly manipulate the way he thinks. If you think this sounds a little unethical and unorthodox then you're right, but will it work? Damn right it will! I know this works because I've seen it over and over again.

Here are 2 easy ways of how to get your ex husband back after separation using mind control.

1. Be cryptic. For example send an email that uses an excuse to get in touch. For example a letter has arrived and it looks like it might be a parking fine or something important with his name on. Then sign the message off with "by the way, I just wanted to thank you for giving me this time to think. Some very interesting things have happened over the last few days, and it's really opened my eyes. Anyway, I'm in a hurry so better go now."

The human brain is programmed to ask questions and solve problems. His mind will be going out of control trying to figure out what has "opened your eyes" and he'll naturally assume the worst. Have you met someone else? have you found out a secret about him? Leaving that gap in his knowledge will drive him crazy. He'll be desperate to know what's going on with you.

2. My second tip on how to get your ex husband back after separation is to remind him of an important, special or romantic time you both shared together. A romantic holiday is usually a great idea. So casually announce that your friend has booked to go to that romantic resort you both visited and then remind him of the time you both laughed or shared a specific experience there. His mind will automatically paint that picture and he will start to re live the experience in his imagination.

This works because he will start to associate you with the good times. He'll remember why he fell in love with you in the first place and he'll start to question whether the break up is a good idea after all.

[Beckym]

Abit of an update.....he came back home to see me for abit last Friday night. We got on better and he actually listened to my feelings and said he would think about what I told him. I even got a few hugs! BUT Monday I found out he is actually on holiday with another girl and has called the police for harassment on me. What can I do to encourage him to want to come back to me and try again as we have a lot of years of history???