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Hi My name is Rum, or my friends call me Rum.
How can someone have a strong mental & physical connection, that makes them laugh and enjoy time with. - but does not have long term potential? cop out argument to break things off?
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I was recently dating this girl that i connected with on Match, and we hit it off and have amazing chemistry.
I noticed at some point things changed, we still text every day - but we had plans to do something and then later she told me she was going with a group of people. We hung out the night before, and the date was for the most part well - we went out to dinner, grabbed drinks at another bar, and then went home - hopped into bed and she tore my clothes off.
The following morning she was going to some amusement park and had to get a haircut and workout before going - so i got kicked out around 7:30 - she offered to stay at my place the night before so i could stay in bed.
I get two snaps then radio silence. She normally would message me through out the day and always said good night, but nothing and following morning nothing. It was weird behavior, i asked her what she was doing that day - on sunday (her kick ball game was canceled due to rain - knew she was not doing anything). I asked her to do something then she came up with she is doing this and want to keep it easy - which i think staying in on a rainy day is keeping it easy; and we live 5 mins walking distance. So I am like ok something is going on.
I asked her do you see us going any place, and she said "i think we have amazing chemistry both mental and physical, and i enjoy hanging out with you but i dont see this going any place long term. I really dont know and I thought about it - and i think rather than letting things drag out now I should end it. I tend to let things go on longer than it should. I dont want this getting worse down the road, because if things change it will be more amiable for me to come back.
I was talking to her through out all that, and i said since you dont know want to put a pin in a month and if it doesnt work we go our ways.. and she said no...
I told her im not asking because i am desperate - she responds i know you arent and i know you can get any woman you want.... (i think that was too much)
i basically told her i am not sure if i would be down for a rekindle, but she may try. you dont go from tearing someone's clothes off and ghosting on them in a coarse of the day. This is obviously clear what this is or was or that you met someone else and went with them that that amusement park. I may be over reading - but i think i got everything i needed. I do not need any further explanation or flattery thank you.
she said ok - and that was 4 days ago now.
I only said the stuff up below to give her a chance to explore, what i want and what i need, and let her decide. I removed her off social media after she strong armed said yes.
How can someone have a strong mental & physical connection, that makes them laugh and enjoy time with. - but does not have long term potential? cop out argument to break things off?
Context below:
I was recently dating this girl that i connected with on Match, and we hit it off and have amazing chemistry.
I noticed at some point things changed, we still text every day - but we had plans to do something and then later she told me she was going with a group of people. We hung out the night before, and the date was for the most part well - we went out to dinner, grabbed drinks at another bar, and then went home - hopped into bed and she tore my clothes off.
The following morning she was going to some amusement park and had to get a haircut and workout before going - so i got kicked out around 7:30 - she offered to stay at my place the night before so i could stay in bed.
I get two snaps then radio silence. She normally would message me through out the day and always said good night, but nothing and following morning nothing. It was weird behavior, i asked her what she was doing that day - on sunday (her kick ball game was canceled due to rain - knew she was not doing anything). I asked her to do something then she came up with she is doing this and want to keep it easy - which i think staying in on a rainy day is keeping it easy; and we live 5 mins walking distance. So I am like ok something is going on.
I asked her do you see us going any place, and she said "i think we have amazing chemistry both mental and physical, and i enjoy hanging out with you but i dont see this going any place long term. I really dont know and I thought about it - and i think rather than letting things drag out now I should end it. I tend to let things go on longer than it should. I dont want this getting worse down the road, because if things change it will be more amiable for me to come back.
I was talking to her through out all that, and i said since you dont know want to put a pin in a month and if it doesnt work we go our ways.. and she said no...
I told her im not asking because i am desperate - she responds i know you arent and i know you can get any woman you want.... (i think that was too much)
i basically told her i am not sure if i would be down for a rekindle, but she may try. you dont go from tearing someone's clothes off and ghosting on them in a coarse of the day. This is obviously clear what this is or was or that you met someone else and went with them that that amusement park. I may be over reading - but i think i got everything i needed. I do not need any further explanation or flattery thank you.
she said ok - and that was 4 days ago now.
I only said the stuff up below to give her a chance to explore, what i want and what i need, and let her decide. I removed her off social media after she strong armed said yes.
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