Ex GF messaged me 3 days after break-up. Advice please

[shypshnius]

My ex girlfriend i really loved dumped me on Monday for being really clingy and needy. She acted really cold and didn't want to talk to me that day. She basically said: "forget it, it's over". I was really shocked, tried calling her but she hang up so i just texted her: "Thank you for everything, if you end up changing your mind - you can call me since i'm leaving the door open. Love you". However, 3 days after the break-up she messaged me midnight Wednesday on messenger with a random joke and we had a short fun conversation for like 20 minutes before she responded with: "your given minutes for today ran out, good night". What is this supposed to mean lol? Is she just playing with me, trying to get her ego fed or do you think she actually still cares and started regretting her decision after dumping me 3 days ago?

I'm not sure if i did the right thing responding and chatting with her. Maybe i should of done the no contact thing and ignored her. She didn't mention or talk about the relationship during that chat though.

We been together for 6 months and it was a "long distance" relationship. We used to meet up twice a week.

Thoughts?

[myluvstories]

You don't have to be excited because she's talking to you, that is like feeding her ego.... try to learn how to do without her

[Gloria]

The fact of the matter is that she felt compelled to dump you and now you feel compelled to get her back. You're a strong and determined man who can achieve anything he sets his mind to so make this happen. Make her not only regret her actions but make her wish she could turn back time so you two were back together again.

The first step to make her regret breaking up with you is to even the playing the field. Right now everything is completely unbalanced. She's the one who dumped you so she has control over what happens next. You can't allow that to continue anymore. You must take control back. You can do that by showing her that you're totally fine with the way things ended up. Call her up and in your best friendly voice ask her casually how she is. Make some small talk and then tell her that you're just calling to thank her for having the courage to change what was obviously a broken relationship. Don't sound sarcastic as this will damage your plan. Just let her know that you now see the value in things coming to an end and you're okay with it.

What this will accomplish is immeasurable. You'll essentially be pushing the feeling of rejection that you've been carrying around back to her. She'll feel that you no longer want her anymore and even if you dumped her initially, it's still going to sting. There's a feeling of control that a woman has when she breaks up with a man because she still knows he wants and craves her. If you take that feeling away from her it's going to leave her feeling unbalanced.

Dating someone else may seem like a great way to get your ex to want you back but it's not. After you've made your speech to your ex girlfriend about the value in the break up, don't start dating right away. She'll take this a sign that you're truly over her and it will probably make her give up on you completely. Instead, continue to live your life and enjoy every moment. Hang out with groups of friends that include women so when your ex asks around about you she'll hear that you're out having fun and it will make her wonder if you're on the brink of finding someone else.

The realization that you're moving on with your life combined with your rejection of her may be enough to make your ex girlfriend panic and want you back. When someone is slipping away forever, that's when you often fully comprehend what life without them would be like.

[Nate]

It is easier to first talk about the things you should not do to get your girlfriend back before we talk about those things you should do. To start, you should not send flowers, write her a poem, send her a romantic text, or tell her that you want her back. You shouldn't beg for her to take you back or plead or anything else along those lines. When you do this, all you are doing is showing her that you're not capable of handling a mature relationship. She's also looking for a guy who can protect her, and those feelings are very primordial and can't be changed inside of her. If you cry and grovel, you're not sending the signal that you're the guy who can protect her from harm - you're sending the signal that you won't even be able to protect yourself!

Once you understand that you shouldn't be begging for her to take you back, you should then try to cut off all contact with her. This isn't saying that you should ignore her phone calls and texts, but you should not call her or initiate any other conversation with her. When she broke up with you, she didn't hate everything about you. Chances are, she still loves parts of you - the parts that made her get together with you in the first place. However, there is one or two things about you that she has grown to either not like or actually hate about you, and those things are so strong that they overpowered her feelings of love toward you.

If you stay her friend and remain close to her, you will be giving her those things that she still loves about you without getting any sort of commitment in return. You have to force her to make up her mind - does she want to be with you or not? After a short period of time, she'll start to realize that she may want to get back together with you, and that's when you make your next move...

[shypshnius]

I've been doing the no contact since she last messaged me 4 days ago. She hasn't messaged me since then yet. I've been uploading random things of me having fun on messenger's "my day" just to show her that i'm doing fine without her and she reacted to couple of them today (hasn't messaged me though). I will keep doing the no contact and see what happens.. I'm not even sure anymore if she still has any feelings for me left after that last message "your given minutes ran out" 4 days ago..

That probably means that shes definitelly trying to get over me for good?