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My ex was a fangirl and read erotica long before she met me in uni. We're both 21 now. Her fangirling died down after we started to date each other. It got sexual (we were each others' first) fast and we enjoyed it. We had exes but nothing serious until this - she even accidentally mentioned that she wanted to marry after graduating. After more time, it got more serious and had a lot of great times but we were both jealous and a bit controlling. It became a bit toxic. After 2 yrs however, she became less jealous and all, and her sex drive died down as well. I noticed and lessed my jealousy but sex became an issue.
It was then when I saw her conversation with a girl friend that she's back to fangirling (to a diff celebrity) and had what seemed like sexual comments. I broke up but right after I asked her back after she said it wasn't sexual. A month later she breaks up as she claims she got tired of fighting and got bored of the relationship but she asks to get back together after a week, as she says her feelings will come back, so we did. I then broke up for the 3rd time (amicable) as I couldnt handle it. She told me to date others and get the sex I deserve and would be fine with it if ever we got back together. She also said the next person she'll date is who she'll marry. A week later i find out she has been maintaining a twitter for months for fangirling and had sexual comments. I confronted her and she owned up to lying to me about her fangirling. I told her I didn't want anything to do with her anymore. A little later we did agree to become friends in the future though.
But after researching, I realized it's normal for people to fantisize and that I was being immature (didn't tell her that). I want her back now but she's happy with just being a fangirl. No other guy in the picture as she doesnt even reply to people other than her girl friends and me (we used to share passwords). We have the same classes and group of friends. I initiated No Contact right after confrontation but replied to some of her messages (about school). When we're together she laughs at my jokes, but she has said to her friend that there is nothing left between us and that she'd only start dating once her idol has gotten married.
She previously told me she wants to be together in the future but after I found out, she no longer does because it's "embarassing". Do i completely ignore her or still reply? Do i avoid her in person? What do I do as I want her back?
It was then when I saw her conversation with a girl friend that she's back to fangirling (to a diff celebrity) and had what seemed like sexual comments. I broke up but right after I asked her back after she said it wasn't sexual. A month later she breaks up as she claims she got tired of fighting and got bored of the relationship but she asks to get back together after a week, as she says her feelings will come back, so we did. I then broke up for the 3rd time (amicable) as I couldnt handle it. She told me to date others and get the sex I deserve and would be fine with it if ever we got back together. She also said the next person she'll date is who she'll marry. A week later i find out she has been maintaining a twitter for months for fangirling and had sexual comments. I confronted her and she owned up to lying to me about her fangirling. I told her I didn't want anything to do with her anymore. A little later we did agree to become friends in the future though.
But after researching, I realized it's normal for people to fantisize and that I was being immature (didn't tell her that). I want her back now but she's happy with just being a fangirl. No other guy in the picture as she doesnt even reply to people other than her girl friends and me (we used to share passwords). We have the same classes and group of friends. I initiated No Contact right after confrontation but replied to some of her messages (about school). When we're together she laughs at my jokes, but she has said to her friend that there is nothing left between us and that she'd only start dating once her idol has gotten married.
She previously told me she wants to be together in the future but after I found out, she no longer does because it's "embarassing". Do i completely ignore her or still reply? Do i avoid her in person? What do I do as I want her back?
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