Why is he cold towards me

[Shenny]

So, after i have completed the No Contact Rule.. My ex didnt contact me, however, i had contacted him once he read and didnt reply. Two days after, i went to classes and my usually taxi couldnt make it to pick me up..So, I decided to ask my ex if he can, and he did.. whilst dropping me home from classes, he didnt really interact with me that much.. He was much cold and distant.. I did some talking obviously, nothing pertaining to the relationship or the break up.. But he did respond to me coldly.. I was kinda puzzle about his reaction.. Cause About 5 weeks ago when the break up happened, he had picked me up from classes and we were talking about the breakup and i was begging and pleading but he was confident about the decision and did alot of talking then.. Now after 5 weeks, i found him to be cold and distant, but still makes the effort to pick me up..
I had met in a minor accident, two days ago.. I message him and told him: I met in an accident.. His responds was a bit caring and then he went back being distant..Btw, he lives about 10 mins away from me, walking distance.. This morning, he saw me when he was driving going to work and he passed me and blow.. But hes not messaging me if i dont message..
Im confused.. Im not sure if hes into me.. what are my chances of getting him back.. If chances are possible, then what can i do to get him back..

[Julia]

How long did your no contact last? If your no contact was 30 days, then you need to extend it to 60 days. You still need to give him time to miss you, and the reason he is still acting distance is because he hasn't missed you enough. So, give him the time he needs to miss you.

[Sammy]

Many are quite confused about when to break the no contact rule or how long should no contact be. Some believe in a 30 day no contact rule or a 60 day no contact rule? Truthfully, the answer isn't a one size fits deal.

There's a time when to break the no contact rule and initiate contact with your ex, and the reasons are:

1. You've Moved On From The Break Up!

This means you've realized the break up occurred and moved past the emotional pain. In other words, you're past grieving over the loss. The old relationship you and your ex had is dead and gone forever.

Any relationship you're going to have from here on out is a brand new one! Think of it as a fresh start, and you'll need to start off fresh again so you have less of a chance of heading toward break up again.

2. Neediness and Desperation Are Gone!

You're no longer needy or desperate. This means you no longer feel the need to try to convince your ex to get back together. You've realized you don't need them back to make yourself happy. You're happiness is determined by you.

3. You've Fixed What Caused The Break Up!

There's many reasons why people leave a relationship. Every break up is unique, and I can't tell you what went wrong in your relationship. Whatever it was, you're going to have to discover this yourself and fix it.

This is extremely important. If you don't figure it out, you'll head for another break up soon after getting back together. Do not ask your ex. This will lead to an argument, and will bring negative images of you in their mind again.

4. You Know How To Re-Attract Your Ex!

Many people fail after the no contact rule because they don't have a complete strategy on how to re-attract their ex back. Getting your ex back is a process just like everything in life is. You didn't run before you learned how to walk, did you?

5. You Decided You Truly Want Your Ex Back!

When the pain of a break up disappears after the no contact rule, sometimes you may not want your ex back. Perhaps, you realize they were just wrong for you. That's fine!

However, if you decide they're really worth getting back, you're going to need to know what's advised in #4, as well as the next step.

6. How To Contact Your Ex After No Contact!

The above is a checklist of when to break the no contact rule. If your ex hasn't contacted you first, you'll need to initiate contact with them first, but in a way that will give you the best possible chance of them responding without any pressure that could cause their defenses to go up.