EX gf called me 2 days after i blocked her on facebook. Confused

[shypshnius]

Hello, my ex girlfriend dumped me like 10 days ago. I was doing the no contact but made a mistake asking her out for a coffee on Monday. She responded with: "no thanks, i'd rather see someone else". I got a little bit mad by that answer so i just instantly blocked her on facebook and replied with: "give me a call if you change your mind". So.. 2 days later on Wednesday she called me and said: "you told me to call you if i change my mind" and 30 seconds into the call she said: "i'm just kidding, just wanted to irritate you, i actually haven't changed my mind. How are you doing?".. I just said that i'm fine then she wished me good night. When i picked up the phone i told her that i'm currently a bit busy and in a rush so can't really talk much (didn't wanna seem needy or desperate). I tried calling her myself the same night 2 hours after our call but she didn't answer. Also tried calling yesterday evening - she also didn't answer.. I will be doing the no contact from now on even though i still love her a lot..

Why did you think she called me? Just trying to get her ego fed, playing with me or what? I'm really confused..

Thank you

[Anthony]

I think she is playing mind games with you, and until you give her space she won't know your worth. She knows you love her and can't do without her, so you need to prove to her that you can live without her.She will come running back to you when you are able to do this, and the only way to do this is to cut off contact with her for at least 30 days.

All the best.

[Clinton]

A very common thing to happen to a lot of people is that it can take weeks and weeks of struggling before you can eventually get your ex girlfriend into a frame of mind where she is prepared to sit down and talk to you. This is a tentative discussion at best and frequently you will find that after all the time of persuading her to talk to you, you finally sit down and within the first minute of you opening your mouth, she is upset and leaving because you have said something wrong.

But what if the situation is even worse than that? The biggest hurdle most men have to contend with is my ex girlfriend won't return my calls.

So now you have a different scenario. What will make it better and what will make it worse? You have no idea and no way of finding out. You are cast adrift and alone. You want to talk, you want to sort out your problems and you want to make up, but you can't even get past the first step. She doesn't want to talk and won't return your calls and that's final.

This is what you do not do, under any circumstances. Whatever you do, do not go and visit her without her consent. To show up suddenly might seem like the ideal solution to getting some communication going, after all, she won't pick up the phone. In showing up at her door she will feel that not only is she upset, but now she has a stalker as well.

There is nothing you could do that is worse than showing up at her door one weekend or waiting for her outside her place of work. What she wants and needs right now is some space and you need to allow it. Yes, you want to talk, but the harder you try to force the issue at this moment, the worse it will get until there is no going back.

Just visiting her without her prior consent or knowledge will be invading the private space she needs right now and it can set back any form of reconciliation by weeks, months or even for good. Once she starts to think of you as a stalker she will become extremely angry and your chances of working around that are virtually nil.

[Rose Mosse]

Oh my god, kick her to the curb. Please. This behaviour is unacceptable and hurtful. You do NOT need to win the affections of someone this mentally unsound.