I need Advice

[michael2829]

It all started with my boyfriend Cheating on me with some kid he use to talk to. When he told me it ruined me and i broke up with him. I decided to get him out of my mind by going out with other guys. One day i was so down that i just had sex with a person and little did i know that that would be one of the worst things I’ve ever done in my life. Two days after i slept with that guy my ex came to me and begged me for forgiveness for what he did. I don’t like keeping secrets from him so I told him what I and done and I saw him cry for the first time. He spent three weeks going back and forth between either wanting me back for just wanting to end it all with me. He eventually decided to end it and he started dating the guy that he kissed. I started moving on but three days after he started dating the other kid he cornered me and kissed me. He wanted me back. H told me the being with that kid made him realize how much he loved me. We got back together and we spent three weeks working on our relationship. We finally got over all the things we did to each other and we were finally getting back to where we were before the initial break up. i thought we were happy again. Then after almost a month of being together again he broke up with me. He told me that in the period of time that we were broken up he was really happy and successful. He said that he's been making a lot of new friends and he has no need for a relationship. Its been a week since we broke up and I don’t know what to do. I need advice. (btw this guy was my first everything and we were together for more than a year)

[Roy]

No matter what has went wrong 90% of break ups can be reconciled if you go about it the right way. Lets have a look at some tips and techniques you can use.

First things first. Don't phone your ex boyfriend every hour that god sends pleading for his return. This will only reduce your chances of getting back with him. If you leave things be for a while and get out with your friends and have some fun. Your ex boyfriend will expect you to hound him so surprise him. He'll respect you for this and will become very curious as to why your not constantly phoning him. It won't be easy but it will benefit you in the long run.

Now you should also be thinking about why your ex boyfriend left you. Think really hard about what went wrong and how you could fix these problems. You need to be honest with yourself and decide whether you can make these changes and if it is really worth getting him back. it now all depends on how you use this new found information once you have come to terms with what went wrong. The methods are very effective and if you are serious about getting you ex boyfriend back you should check it out.

Once you have followed these tips, you might well find that your boyfriend is contacting you! As simple as these tips seem they are extremely powerful at promoting curiosity in your ex partner.

[Elizabeth]

Imagine standing in a room and feeling someone's lingering and longing stares grabbing you only to look up and find that it is your ex boyfriend. Impossible you say, he just broke up with me. Rubbish I tell you. Getting your ex boyfriend back when he broke up with you is not only possible but almost guaranteed if you follow these 2 simple steps.

First: Fight Every Urge to Communicate

I know you want to pick up the phone to call or text your undying love to them. Maybe, just maybe he forgot how much you loved him, miss him now and want him back. This approach is doomed to fail and will squash any embers of love and romance that still linger in your ex. It also makes you look needy and selfish. He asked for space and time and you are only thinking of your pain. Would you want to get back together if the tables were turned and they present themselves as a total wreck? You cannot expect anything different from your ex.

If the road to communication does open up, play it cool! Don't start confessing your love and heartache. Instead simply let him know you miss him and follow this up by saying that you have to agree that the breakup was a good idea as it has given you time to think and grow. Keep the conversation short and on a positive note. Make it look like you are busy and have to go.

This short and positive encounter reminds the ex of the person you were when they first got together with you - Independent and emotionally strong! Not weak and needy. Your boyfriend was attracted to that at one time. Don't for one minute think he isn't still attracted to this about you. This simply serves as a little reminder as to who you are and what they are missing out on.

By giving the impression that you have other things to do it will keep your ex curious, because it is obvious you have "moved on" - we all want something we can not have and in doing this you shift the power of the situation to your advantage.

Second: Fight every Urge to Crawl into a Hole

I know your heart aches and you feel like staying in bed for the rest of your life. Fight this urge! Now is the time for action not reaction. Stand in front of the mirror (literally) and see how exactly you have let yourself go. Have you put on a few extra pounds? Start a workout program. Were you once involved and active in athletics? Go back to sports. Did you let your appearance go? Get a new hair color or style. Ask yourself who you were before you and your ex got together - because that is who your ex is attracted to and wants back!

Make it a priority to get back together with friends you haven't had the time to catch up with in a long time. You will be amazed at how forgiving your friends are at "taking you back".

Surround yourself with positive people and please don't send your best friend to go as an ambassador to you ex boyfriend to plead your case of love and heartbreak on your behalf. He will be curious enough to know how you are doing of his own accord and will ask around.

Your job is to make sure the info he gets is one that paints the picture of you returning to the person you were before the two of you got together. Chances are great that you will not only be more attractive to your ex boyfriend, but others also - remember, a little competition is good for the soul.

[Rose Mosse]

He clearly told you he's not interested and stated the reasons why. It may sound devastating to you now but you will move past this. You should meet new people too and stop beating yourself up for sleeping with other people or casually dating if that's what you need right now.