How long i can give her space can someone help

[GhostDeathMore47]

help me pls....

[Dennis]

This is a common dilemma and if you are going through your mind about how long you should wait before you try and get your girlfriend back, then you may want to keep reading. Timing is one of the most crucial aspects of getting it right, and you might be surprised at how much of an effect it really can have on you and your hope of getting back with your ex girlfriend. It's weird, but you can have just about everything else right, and if the timing is off, no dice.

Now, you might be expecting that I am going to give you a steadfast rule that you must abide to, like all of those best selling relationship books always have in them. You know the ones, things like wait 3 days before you call a woman you've just met, etc. I'm not going to do that, though. There are way too many things to consider in each individual situation to try and pin it down to a precise rule.

There are some guidelines that you can follow, though.

For example, if you were dating a woman for a very brief time, like say, maybe a month and she went cold on you, then you don't want to try and win her back as soon as you can. Why? Because you really did not have too much time together to connect for it to be that dramatic. I am not saying that it doesn't still have an effect on you, but it definitely can seem kind of weird to a woman if you are that eager to win her back after just a short time.

Another example is if you were together for a very long time, you really may want to give her some space for a little while, due to the fact that there are probably a lot of crazy feelings involved, and you want to let them sort themselves out. You don't have to worry about her 'forgetting' you or losing all the feelings that she had for you if you let a couple of weeks pass before you pursue her.

My third example is if you were together for an in between amount of time. Like say, 3-6 months. This is one instance where many times, the sooner that you try and patch things up with her... the better. Don't allow more than a couple of weeks to go by if you can help it. Relationships in this stage tend to be at that sweet spot where the timing is good if you try and win her back as soon as possible. Still, you don't want to come on too strong like the next day after breaking up with her.

Overall, the timing depends on many situations. There are times when you need to let your ex girlfriend cool off for a while. There are times when both you and her just need to get busy with your lives for a little while. And there are also times when the timing will NEVER be right, and you might as well pursue other options.

Here's a little recap on the guidelines:

1. Very short relationship- give it some time, maybe month before you try to win her back. Don't make it seem like you got too attached to her too soon. It's not good, and even if you really did, you don't want her to see that side of you.

2. Long relationship- give it at least a month so that she can cool off, you can cool off, and the deep emotions are not getting in the way of you getting her back. Plus, since the two of you were together for a while, you know that both of you are going to miss each other during that period of time.

3. In between short and long relationship- go for it as soon as possible after a week or two, so that you get her while she is still hot for you. This is when the attachments are there, but they are volatile enough that you do not to wait for too long.

[Elizabeth]

Hello,

You didn't give details about what led to your breakup and what happening right now in your relationship. If you have elaborated more, I would have been able to proffer a better advice.

Though it is very important to give your ex some space after a break up with them, but the question now is how much space is enough, how much space should you give them to get them back? That will strike your intelligent mind as meaning that space can either be too little or too much. The space you give them should just be enough for the purpose you are pursuing, which is to get them back.

So how much space is enough.

First of all you need to settle on the issue of what exactly you want to achieve, which is to get your ex back. The purpose of giving them space should be clearly understood, which is to possibly give them a change of heart.

During this period, time comes into action on their mind, helping to soothe their pains, repentance follows most times and they end up realizing how important you are to them. The space you need to give them should enable them to have enough time for the above processes.

If you interrupt before this process is completed, your goal and objective of getting them back may not be achieved. But also there should be a time when the space given is enough and you need to intervene in getting them back. The main question here is knowing when the time is ripe.

Do you begin to receive several missed calls with hidden numbers on your mobile, does he come visiting to your working place under the pretext of paying visit to someone else. Does he drop by in your office these days all in the name of 'just saying hi' to you, do you now constantly come across your ex in town and wherever you go, then you should know that your ex had gotten over the disagreement and it is now time for you to play your card games right to get your ex back.