Help I'm loosing someone I truly care about.

[EliC]

Hello this is my story:
I am a 17 year old college student. I have a girl that I have been dating and I really care about this girl and I made a huge mistake. I told her I was older then I am and she found out. I really like this girl a lot and want her back what do I do. I miss her I feel lost not having her around and really do wish I could take back what I did.
Please any advice will help.

[Elizabeth]

Hello Elic:

From your story, your girlfriend has no concrete reason to have left you. You only lied about your age and didn't cheat on her. Apologizing to her would have saved your relationship.

You and yor a long time, and now unfortunately, you have done something very wrong that has really made her hurt and angry. She won't speak to you, even though you have tried countless times to contact her, and you really don't know what to do about the situation - you love her so much, but just don't know how to get your ex girlfriend back into your life again.

Women are very different to men, and the quicker you understand this, the sooner you will be able to understand how to get your ex girlfriend back again. When a woman has just broken up with her boyfriend, the last thing she wants to do is to see or speak to him in the too near future - this will only make her feel all the pain of the break-up all over again. However, because you no doubt still love your ex, you HAVE to do SOMETHING to let her know how you feel. Send her an email or a message and pour your heart out to her. Tell her that you KNOW that what you did or said was wrong, and apologise profusely for hurting her. Women don't like to do a lot of guesswork when it comes to relationships, so SHOW her how you feel about her. Send her flowers, with a card saying the little things that you know she likes to hear from you.

In other words, don't just assume that she knows how much you love her - TELL her. Although it is sometimes difficult for a man do demonstrate his feelings, understand that women need to HEAR these things from the man they love. Be persistent about it, even though she is not speaking to you at the moment - she will eventually realise that you are NOT going to give up and relent, and sooner or later you WILL get your ex girlfriend back into your life again.

[Shirley]

You lied about your age? Well, it's best to base relationship on truth.

One of the most painful aspects of a break-up is the lack of clarity on where you stand in relation to your partner. Although most break-ups are fixable - and I will show you how to do it in a second - the real problem often lies in understanding when your ex is ready to talk to you again and in discovering exactly what to say to bring them back. I'll reveal a secret and proven technique for apologizing to your ex in a way that will win them back in just 17 days!

First of all, it is important to give it some time (usually about two weeks) before you contact your ex. The truth is, your partner was likely affected by the break-up as badly as you were. She may not show it, but she's going nuts on the inside! This is good news for anyone hoping to get their ex back - but it is also why it is important to give each other some space - for her to calm down and for you to figure out what to say later on.

After two weeks of silence, if you're still intent on making amends, your best shot is to write a letter to your ex. Letters may sound like a rather old-fashioned way of getting in touch with someone, but they have the advantage of letting you tell your side of the story without being interrupted or getting drawn into arguments.

In the letter, start off by acknowledging the break-up - shows maturity and responsibility on your end, and also indicates to your ex that you have put some thought into the relationship in the meantime. Next, it is important that you state ALL points that you feel led to it in the first place. Since you only get one shot at it, it is important that your letter is as all-inclusive as possible - by doing so, you show your ex that you know what the problems were and therefore are capable of solving them.

[Gray]

This is really amazing! You mean she broke up with you, just because you lied about your age. She isn't suppose to do that.

Here is a video with helpful advice to help you save your relationship: