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I've (19F) been with my bf (20M) for almost 6 months, and he's been living with me and my parents for the last 3. He was only supposed to stay for 3 days. My parents finally had enough and told him he has two weeks to get out and recommended that he go to a transitional housing facility. My mother also recommended that I take this time to tell him we are better off as friends. He's incredibly sweet but unfortunately he is extremely unintelligent. He barely got through high school with a gpa of 1.8. He does ridiculous things like puts the pasta in the water before it's boiling, doesn't know how to use a computer, doesn't know the meaning of simple words, etc. My parents keep asking me if I really want to be with someone who couldn't possibly have an IQ higher than 70. Once, he put an entire container of leftover ribs in the cabinet with the dishes. He shattered my $85 makeup, got his credit card stuck in the receipt slot at a gas pump, doesn't know how to use an ATM. We have an amazing time when we go out on dates, but he was supposed to be saving his money to move out and (unknown to me) he spent all his money on things for me like eating out, flowers and gas. He acted like he had the money and now I'm discovering he has only $200 left. He has an entitled attitude where he thinks that his family (that abandoned him in the first place) owes him an insane amount of money at that one day he can sue them and he'll be "all set". Every job he gets seems to reduce his hours down to nothing and eventually fire him. He says he dreams of a life for us with a house, children, all that and sometimes I think I can see it. Then he'll do something ridiculous that makes me question his abilities entirely. The sex is absolutely incredible and he's the kindest person I've ever met. I worry that in the future if we do decide to live together I'll have to be the main source of income and maintain all the expenses and bills, because he's incapable. This isn't the future that I want for myself, but every time I bring it up he cries and says he'll "try harder to better himself". I do love him and I want the best for him, our personalities seem to be perfect for each other and we have very similar interests and similar childhoods. Sadly, I'm not sure he is ever going to be able to make it out there in the real world, we're his seventh home in a year. When talking about finding an apartment he said something along the lines of "yeah I just got a check for $250 so I should be able to afford $1,500 rent" ??). Should I stay in the relationship during the time that he is in transitional living and see if he improves, or break up with him before he goes? He allowed me to use his phone recently and I found messages between him and his ex fiance. "I don't care what my gf says I'm going to talk to you anyway" and "she'll never break up with me she has too many problems" were just a few that I found. When confronted he apologized and said he was in a bad mental state at the time. He has been suicidal in the past and constantly talks about his time in the mental hospital. He blames his bad childhood for all his issues, whereas I don't because I overcame mine and got help. This is only my second relationship, so I could really use some help. Here are some of the pros, because I don't want this to look completely negative: He helps me run my home clothing business, he does the dishes, is amazing with my two pets, doesn't drink/party, will do practically anything for me.
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