No contact

[DoriBee]

My boyfriend broke up with me exactly a month ago saying while crying “You are too good for me.”Since then,I decided to go no contact.I didnt text him first at all.He,on the other hand texted me 3 times since then .1 st time was after a day when he said I can always count oj him for anything .I answered that I will never bother him again.A week later it was women’s day and he texted me again .I responded again and I said I wish i was with you today and he said Im sorry.Then,a week ago it was my father’s bday and i posted a snap to wich he responded and wished him a happy bday but this time i ignored him.So...do you think all these texts from him are an attempt to making up? I have one week left of no contact but I dont know what I should do after its done i mean i honestly dont want to contact him first and ask him to meet up to solve some issues cos i want to see if he want me bad enough to be the first to reach out.I am still hoping ...

[Rob]

Him sending you message isn't an attempt to make up. He is simply feeling guilty and so trying to be nice to make you think he didn't breakup with you intentionally. However, I will advice you move on with your life and stop waiting for him to come back.

[TeeDee]

What do you mean you have one week left of NC? Receiving & responding to his messages is CONTACT. More importantly, the purpose of NC is for you to heal after some body breaks up with you. It's not a way of giving them the silent treatment in the hopes of manipulating them into missing you & coming back. When you actually go NC & cut somebody out of your life, it's FOREVER,

When your BF said he was too good for you, he wasn't really looking to break up. He was looking for you to reassure him. It's a passive aggressive immature thing to do but that is what he was doing. People who suffer from depression, anxiety, or low self esteem do this to test their partners, to see if the partner will give them the validation they can't find in themselves. If the partner doesn't chase them, it reinforces in their minds that they are worthless. You ignoring him (well trying to) told him that you don't care.

If you want to reconcile both people have to work together & communicate. Going off by yourself makes everything worse.

If you want him back, reach out. He's not going to reach out for you because his stated reason for the break up -- him not being good enough -- means that he doesn't think he is allowed to reach out because in his mind he doesn't deserve you.

[DoriBee]

Thank you!! This was really helpful

[Sandra]

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