My gf left me after loooong time :(

[sonicgear]

After long time i don't even have courage to say how many years(but over 6 years), my gf left me because she said that she wants to try to move on and find someone who she thinks is for her...like our relationship didn't go, etc...although she is right 10% for that i am not ok for that and i am very bumped now...it has been over 10 days now but i still can't get over that..
I feel in love when i was only 18 years old with this girl and she was older then me few years, but i never wanted this to be obstacle with us and she agreed and everything was going out nicely..we had fights here and then but never to the point that i leave her or that she leaves me for good...we had minor breakups for 1-2 days but eventually all came to happy ending....but now after she told me let's go only on break to see how it works out, i agreed and after 10 days she said no i said break up for good and not like pause....so i asked why etc and she said she don't want to go back to old things(me) and that she wants to find someone who is more fit for here sort of speak and i recently found out that some guy from work where she works, is hitting on her and that she agreed to go out with him to see if he is good...that is even more stressful for me and my feelings.

I still love her and she knows that, but she is acting now like she is hurt for some reason and like her feelings are hurt etc and she wants something new....i know for sure that people from work told her that this is good and that she should move on, even though that is not their business because i am not like that...

I feel like someone told her to do this and she is acting all weird etc, because in this period when we were together, neither of us cheated that was for sure...like i said we had fights like all couples do but never to this point. And she broke this somehow saying okay listen it is better if we are on pause...and we were and then she said no no i meant break up there is no pause bla bla and like she is over more, like for months she was preparing etc...My only thought is that for months she was maybe seeing or talking with that other guy or with someone else but she didn't tell me that or i don't know, my head is in mess now

Anyhow, i wanted to share this with you, since lot of you have similar feelings and similar past relationships and i really want to hear what you have to say.

Sorry for longer text...

[Roy]

You're not alone. Many men experience these painful feelings after a breakup. But you're a man, and it's not supposed to bother you, right? After all, you're supposed to be tough and in control. You're not supposed to express emotion.

What a bunch of hog wash. Men are human too. It's perfectly OK to feel the way you feel.

If you want to get your ex girlfriend back, you first need to learn to control your emotions. It's all about controlling them so they don't control you. It's OK to experience them, but you can't let them control you or you'll end up doing something drastic that will only end up pushing your girlfriend further away.

In order to clear your mind, you need to first create some space between you and your girlfriend. I realize this is difficult to do since all you really want is to be back together spending time with each other. She needs time right now, so it's best if you give it to her.

To keep your mind off her and your emotions under control, try to remove things from your place which remind you of her. This doesn't mean you have to toss them in the garbage or start a big bon fire in the middle of your living room, but just put them away where you won't see them every day. When you get back together, you can bring them back out.

Next, don't isolate yourself from everyone else. You probably feel like just locking yourself in your room so no one can bother you, but this is one of the worst things you can do. Instead, go out and be around other people.

It could be friends. It could be family. It could be joining a new club or donating time to help someone less fortunate. The idea is simply to get out of the house and interact with people so you're not as overwhelmed by depression.

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[Scot]

The first thing you have to do is try to remain calm. Yes I know this is hard, but losing your nerve or temper is one of the worst things you can do at this point. Begging, pleading, harassing or putting out sob stories are some of the worst things you can do after a break up. Doing these things can actually put the final nail in the coffin of your relationship with your ex girlfriend.

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This mind calming method my seem a little stupid, but it is a proven and effective technique, so give it a try. Read over the instructions first, then try it with an open mind, perhaps while still reading the instructions. You are best resting somewhere you can relax like on a bed or settee, which is also quiet and peaceful.

Once there; start to take deep breaths and focus on your breathing; feel the gentle rise and fall of you lungs; Now try to feel your heart beat; You may feel it on a particular point or area of your body; Keep focusing on your breathing and feeling your heart beat; Now try to feel the air in the room; Feel the air slowly move over your skin on the arms or neck; Try to focus on your breathing, heart beat and air over your skin at the same time.

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