Getting Coffee With An Ex

[ja7663]

Hey everybody,

So my now ex gf and I broke up about 6 months ago, and had little communication from then up until now. I asked her out to coffee after a long text conversation not too long ago, and she said yes. First, I want to say that yes, I did make attempts at moving on, going out with several girls that just didn't work out. Second, I have never tried reconnecting with an ex before, so I'm in some uncharted waters for me. The relationship was ended by her because it was "too perfect" and even tho I thought it was stupid, I respected it. Anyway, she seemed enthusiastic about getting the coffee, and I'd just like some input. I would like to try and rehash things with her, but I know it has to be taken slowly. Thanks for reading.

[John]

If she has agreed to go out with you to coffee, then you are already on the path to reconciling with her again. When you meet with her, ensure you don't bring up the issues the led to your breakup. Rather, talk about general things and afterwards, let her know you want her back.

[Alexa]

So, you are thinking about meeting after the break up. Here is what NOT to do as we take a look at the 3 worst places to meet with your ex girlfriend.

1. Meeting at one of your familiar "hang outs". Oh, so many of us make this exact mistake! You both need all the help you can get as you do the awkward rediscovery of each other. This includes going to places that are new and different. It doesn't have to be some place that is expensive, or at all impressive since the point is to symbolize the possibilities of a fresh start. Please don't do the dinner at your old standby and then a movie.
2. Meeting at a place that will remind her of your lack of attention to her. Now get this straight - a higher price tag does not equal higher level of attention! Lots of guys make the mistake of trying to impress the ex with gifts or taking her to an expensive restaurant or event. But the attention she wants is quiet moments, conversation without interruption, and you doing things that she loves and you don't. This might involve a walk in the park or a picnic, go shopping or antiquing, spending time with her at some special event with her family. And the key is giving her all of your attention, to the point of thinking you are overdoing it because she will not think you are.
3. Meeting in a place where she could feel like she is competing for your attention at that very moment. The classic example would be taking her to the bar and grille where everyone knows you. And you definitely do not want to go to a place that is crowded and there are lots of good looking, available women around you. I hope that is an obvious one to you.

So really it is Common Sense 101 but you want to take your ex girlfriend to neutral locations without major distractions allowing you to give her all of your attention.