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I was going through a divorce about 2 yrs ago. This woman and I began communicating while I was still living in the marital home and going thru the divorce process. She’s has been there for me and been very supportive through that process.
A few weeks after the divorce was final, I asked her out for drinks. When we first met we had a really chemistry and felt like we could talk for days on end about life, relationships or anything. It felt like we just clicked & had this connection I haven’t felt in forever. We ended the night with a kiss on the lips.
After that, we met up for a couple dinners and I’d gotten takeout for us. All of these nights ending with big long hugs and kisses on the cheek a couple simple kisses on the lips. Shortly after our last time having dinner together it was confirmed that she was moving out of state for her new job. This was also the night we kissed & hugged the most.
We still had been texting, but it seemed she was backing off even more and we were not doing much texting. I have been backing off a bit too since I’m not getting much in return. Well eventually I was able to see her one last time before she left and brought her a going away gift. We kissed and hugged me a couple times, but she eventually stepped away and I gave her one final hug goodbye.
About a month or so later, I emailed her just wanting to clear the air on our feelings and not end what we had on a sour note. Well she ended up typing back with an honest response and even told me she was crying after reading it. That she did have feelings for me at that point and still did when she read the letter. She said she missed me and missed us hanging out. It seems she also is a very guarded woman for many reasons & was also having a hard time keeping her feelings in check. that she did have feelings for me back when we first met & still did till that day. Also she said she even ended up falling in love with me. She said I was an easy man to fall in love with. She ended up opening her heart up to me and wasn’t sure what to do from that point going forward.
Well we texted a bit more and I followed up that last letter with one that she felt came on to strong cause it gave her the impression I thought we were dating or could date. She ended our communication right there and blocked my phone number and on all social media. So I figure it’s done and over, we move on go our separate ways.
Well about 2 weeks ago I was on a dating site and found her online, seems she moved back home and was working virtually for her job that moved her out of state. Well I pulled the trigger and said what’s up stranger, she replied about a min later and said I’m good. Not a minute after I read her response I got a text saying I could text her here. The texts just got rolling from there.
My first thought though was that she blocked me from all social media sites and texts as I was never able to get through to her. She said she as having phone issues during that time and that she was a emotional hormonal bitch to me and also apologized for how that ended. She too was having some health issues going on. So for about a week I waited for her to follow up and try to pursue me via text. Well the next 3 days she’s texted me back with a response from what we were chatting about the night before or from me telling her to have a good day. So I thought since we had communicated well that it would continue, I was just following her lead.
Then later in the week I texted & told her to have an awesome day at work And she said she’d try. I told her she’s got this and if she needed to vent I was here. She said, oh boy could I vent. I asked if it was about life, work or other stuff and she said all. I said well if you need to talk later I’m here for you. She said Ok cool, thanks.
Later that evening, I checked back in on her and she was doing better. We then started flirting and I eventually asked if she wanted to talk I could come over and bring some dinner and drinks. She said ok, so I grabbed take out and took it over, along with a couple drinks. She texted a few minutes later and said "Be nice to see you" & I replied with "Looking forward to seeing you to". When I got there I walked in and we hugged and kissed each other on the cheek. We then had dinner and she said she would buy next time. So we then talked for about 3-4 hours but never brought up where we stand or anything with us. While we were talking though, she opened up to me more about her and her health and even told me some nights she has to cry herself to sleep holding her cat. Before I left I gave her a small gift of her favorite candy cause we were flirting about eating chocolate & having wine earlier. Then when I left, I gave her another kiss on the cheek and hug & I think she did too. That night I got home and sent her a text saying "It was great spending time with out tonight & looking forward to seeing you again soon. I loved you with the short hairdo, it looked cute on you. (Added Hugs and Flirting emojis). Have a great night & Sleep well. After that she typed back the next day & said Thank you, nice to see you too. I'm thinking I came on to strong so I waited a few days to type back and asked how her weekend was & never heard back. As of now I haven’t heard from her in about a week.
So I’m wondering what the heck happened for her to just cut me off again. Why end it this way?? Is there anything still there or not? Is she confused about what she wants? Is she playing hard to get or just pushed me away one final time but not mature enough to let me down? Is she just playing me as s backup if after meeting some new people she decides well I’ll go back cause he’ll have me back??
Any input on this would be greatly appreciated...
A few weeks after the divorce was final, I asked her out for drinks. When we first met we had a really chemistry and felt like we could talk for days on end about life, relationships or anything. It felt like we just clicked & had this connection I haven’t felt in forever. We ended the night with a kiss on the lips.
After that, we met up for a couple dinners and I’d gotten takeout for us. All of these nights ending with big long hugs and kisses on the cheek a couple simple kisses on the lips. Shortly after our last time having dinner together it was confirmed that she was moving out of state for her new job. This was also the night we kissed & hugged the most.
We still had been texting, but it seemed she was backing off even more and we were not doing much texting. I have been backing off a bit too since I’m not getting much in return. Well eventually I was able to see her one last time before she left and brought her a going away gift. We kissed and hugged me a couple times, but she eventually stepped away and I gave her one final hug goodbye.
About a month or so later, I emailed her just wanting to clear the air on our feelings and not end what we had on a sour note. Well she ended up typing back with an honest response and even told me she was crying after reading it. That she did have feelings for me at that point and still did when she read the letter. She said she missed me and missed us hanging out. It seems she also is a very guarded woman for many reasons & was also having a hard time keeping her feelings in check. that she did have feelings for me back when we first met & still did till that day. Also she said she even ended up falling in love with me. She said I was an easy man to fall in love with. She ended up opening her heart up to me and wasn’t sure what to do from that point going forward.
Well we texted a bit more and I followed up that last letter with one that she felt came on to strong cause it gave her the impression I thought we were dating or could date. She ended our communication right there and blocked my phone number and on all social media. So I figure it’s done and over, we move on go our separate ways.
Well about 2 weeks ago I was on a dating site and found her online, seems she moved back home and was working virtually for her job that moved her out of state. Well I pulled the trigger and said what’s up stranger, she replied about a min later and said I’m good. Not a minute after I read her response I got a text saying I could text her here. The texts just got rolling from there.
My first thought though was that she blocked me from all social media sites and texts as I was never able to get through to her. She said she as having phone issues during that time and that she was a emotional hormonal bitch to me and also apologized for how that ended. She too was having some health issues going on. So for about a week I waited for her to follow up and try to pursue me via text. Well the next 3 days she’s texted me back with a response from what we were chatting about the night before or from me telling her to have a good day. So I thought since we had communicated well that it would continue, I was just following her lead.
Then later in the week I texted & told her to have an awesome day at work And she said she’d try. I told her she’s got this and if she needed to vent I was here. She said, oh boy could I vent. I asked if it was about life, work or other stuff and she said all. I said well if you need to talk later I’m here for you. She said Ok cool, thanks.
Later that evening, I checked back in on her and she was doing better. We then started flirting and I eventually asked if she wanted to talk I could come over and bring some dinner and drinks. She said ok, so I grabbed take out and took it over, along with a couple drinks. She texted a few minutes later and said "Be nice to see you" & I replied with "Looking forward to seeing you to". When I got there I walked in and we hugged and kissed each other on the cheek. We then had dinner and she said she would buy next time. So we then talked for about 3-4 hours but never brought up where we stand or anything with us. While we were talking though, she opened up to me more about her and her health and even told me some nights she has to cry herself to sleep holding her cat. Before I left I gave her a small gift of her favorite candy cause we were flirting about eating chocolate & having wine earlier. Then when I left, I gave her another kiss on the cheek and hug & I think she did too. That night I got home and sent her a text saying "It was great spending time with out tonight & looking forward to seeing you again soon. I loved you with the short hairdo, it looked cute on you. (Added Hugs and Flirting emojis). Have a great night & Sleep well. After that she typed back the next day & said Thank you, nice to see you too. I'm thinking I came on to strong so I waited a few days to type back and asked how her weekend was & never heard back. As of now I haven’t heard from her in about a week.
So I’m wondering what the heck happened for her to just cut me off again. Why end it this way?? Is there anything still there or not? Is she confused about what she wants? Is she playing hard to get or just pushed me away one final time but not mature enough to let me down? Is she just playing me as s backup if after meeting some new people she decides well I’ll go back cause he’ll have me back??
Any input on this would be greatly appreciated...
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