Tweet
Hi guys.... need a bit of advice.
So I met a girl around 2 years ago (when I was with someone else, and she was with someone else). At this point we hadn't told each other we liked each other, and to be fair, we didn't really know each other at that point. We broke up with our respective partners (not for each other), and happened to go on a date a month or so later.
Fast forward 2 years, and we've split up after a rough 4-6 weeks of external stresses taking their toll. It's a real shame because we were an excellent couple in the most part - and I'm particularly gutted because I feel like I've lost my best mate. We split around 4-5 weeks ago now, and I'm 23 days in to 'no contact' (which I initiated). I've done break ups before with girls I've been very much in to, but this is different. Something is telling me it isn't over.
Post break up, we argued a little for a week, then both calmed down, and I ended up going around to hers unanncounced (I know, bad idea for most people); but it was actually a really nice evening and we acted like we previously had done as a couple, kissing etc, she told me she really missed me and so on... Naturally I was really happy, and the next day I contacted her via text seeing if we maybe could go out for a drink, and she completely just shot me down and said no. So since then I stopped contact completely and have gone off social media etc. I have no idea what she's doing, and she has no idea what I'm doing.
The thing is, I will be seeing her in 2 weeks time at an event (she will definitely be there and I have to be there) and I don't know how to play it. I've made quite a few changes to myself over the last month. I've taken up a few hobbies I had talked about for a long time but never got round to, I've cut down on my work (which was a massive issue), and I've received support on a few issues I was dealing with privately (which she never knew about, but I feel in hindsight was the reason I was acting the way I was).
As I said, there's something different about this break up, and my biggest regret is that she split up with a guy that I don't feel was me.
So I met a girl around 2 years ago (when I was with someone else, and she was with someone else). At this point we hadn't told each other we liked each other, and to be fair, we didn't really know each other at that point. We broke up with our respective partners (not for each other), and happened to go on a date a month or so later.
Fast forward 2 years, and we've split up after a rough 4-6 weeks of external stresses taking their toll. It's a real shame because we were an excellent couple in the most part - and I'm particularly gutted because I feel like I've lost my best mate. We split around 4-5 weeks ago now, and I'm 23 days in to 'no contact' (which I initiated). I've done break ups before with girls I've been very much in to, but this is different. Something is telling me it isn't over.
Post break up, we argued a little for a week, then both calmed down, and I ended up going around to hers unanncounced (I know, bad idea for most people); but it was actually a really nice evening and we acted like we previously had done as a couple, kissing etc, she told me she really missed me and so on... Naturally I was really happy, and the next day I contacted her via text seeing if we maybe could go out for a drink, and she completely just shot me down and said no. So since then I stopped contact completely and have gone off social media etc. I have no idea what she's doing, and she has no idea what I'm doing.
The thing is, I will be seeing her in 2 weeks time at an event (she will definitely be there and I have to be there) and I don't know how to play it. I've made quite a few changes to myself over the last month. I've taken up a few hobbies I had talked about for a long time but never got round to, I've cut down on my work (which was a massive issue), and I've received support on a few issues I was dealing with privately (which she never knew about, but I feel in hindsight was the reason I was acting the way I was).
As I said, there's something different about this break up, and my biggest regret is that she split up with a guy that I don't feel was me.
Comment