Ex and I Are Friends but Should I Back Off

[Anon48661]

Background: we were best friends for 3 years and were strictly platonic. Dated for 10 months, lived together for 9 of them. She has cheated on all her exes since I've known her. She broke up with me cuz I went on a 4 day vacation with some friends and she thought I cheated cuz I came back with bumps on my penis. I accused her of cheating and we both got tested. She was negative and I had molluscum. I didn't cheat on her. She started dating a guy a week after we broke up. It's been 3 months and she's moving to be with him and he's looking for an engagement ring. I told her we could be friends and that I have no romantic feelings for her. She says the same. It's back to how it was in my eyes and I'm happy to have my best friend back.

Problem: She hasn't told her new boyfriend that I'm her ex. We hang out. I've planted myself firmly in the friend zone where I want to be. She gets jealous when I talk to girls. She accused me of having a new girlfriend and wanted to meet her. I don't have one. She then tells me she doesn't want to meet her cuz she's probably ugly. Her new boyfriend whom she is deadset on marrying can't have kids, he's fixed and has 4 already. She asked me to be a sperm donor in the future. Like seriously asked me. My gut says she's not over me. Should I back off the friendship because I don't want to ruin anything between her and her new guy? I just don't want to lose her as a friend if I'm looking too deep into this.

[Clay]

There is nothing wrong with you being friends with her. Moreover she wants to remain friends and you are comfortable with the idea. So, go ahead and just be friends with her.

[Sofia]

Before you consider to remain friends with her, you have to be sure you don't have feelings for her anymore. One way to know that is when she is around other guys. If you still get jealous if you see her with a guy, then you still have feelings for her. However, if the reverse is the case, you know you're completely over her.

If you are sure you don't have anymore feelings for her, you are okay being friends with her.

However, I can tell she still feels something for you.

[Anon48661]

Thx for the replies. I don't have feelings for her. I support her new relationship and she knows it. I just feel weird that she hasn't told this guy that I'm her ex. I feel like that's a big breech of trust on her part, especially if she has feelings for me. I guess I should back off and give it more time. I'm just afraid that if I do that again the friendship will be lost forever.