Feel absolutely devastated

[Davidace007]

I don't know where to start I've been with this girl for 5 years she is 12 years younger than me when we first got together she cheated on me with her ex-boyfriend and his best mate which then she accused one of them of raping her which turned out to be a lie she just slept with them we got past that she promised that things like that would never happen again but for many years things seem to be fine she's never ever lived with me she's always lived at home with her parents but till the last 6 months I have found out that she had been going out behind my back I don't know with who but she's told me that she's been going out with her friends behind my back and she didn't want me to know because I wouldn't like it she is a very possessive person and always accuses me of doing something cheating messaging women when I don't even have any female friends or any even on social media when she has a whole load of men on her Facebook and Instagram she's a very secretive person with a phone she's made me feel very lonely and used I'm starting to think that she has been cheating on me again I have ended the relationship but she's maintained that she has not cheated on me but she still now can change this to say that I've been cheating on her when I don't even go out and I've just found out that she's been going out with her friends behind my back and I didn't even know about it and she's admitted it I've tried talking to her I've had nothing but abuse from her she never helps me with anything she's left me a couple of times when I needed her she never helps me with the cooking or even the washing she's very lazy but I'd love her with all my heart she's also really bad liar I found out after 2 years into the relationship that she was a compulsive Gambler as well and used to spend £900 a month on internet gambling I didn't find this out because I earned quite good money and I never expected her to pay for anything I felt that I wanted to take care of her and she didn't need to spend any money she was never the type of girl that would ask for things though or anything expensive so I wouldn't call her any type of Gold Digger as I never used to spend silly money on her. Is there anyone out there with any type of advice on how to get over this or what to do she says she doesn't care and I'm this and that I've done absolutely nothing to be treated this way I'm an honest and faithful Guy and have no secrets but yet she has so many I think.

[Jane]

You said she has been going out with her friends behind you back, hence you accused her of cheating. You are only accusing her, but these accusations might be false.

I think you are making wrong conclusions, you need to retrace your steps.

[Bradwin]

Your instinct can't lie to you, so follow your instinct. If your instinct tells you that she is the wrong woman for you, then leave her immediately. Failure to do so will result in more hurt in the future.

[bunnyhabit]

this relationship is toxic and should be ended. you have nothing in common. once a cheater always a cheater don't believe she will ever change. she obviously likes to be friendly with numerous men.

cut your losses now by finding someone you are comfortable with. once you have a new relationship you will forget about her and be much happier than this terrible partnership.