i don’t want to lose him help

[Lesleyloo1]

just told me that he doesn’t want a relationship anymore and has to break up with me ..we met 6 months ago and from day 1 we had the best connection in every way we made each other happy had so much fun every time we met ..to this day we have never argued over anything .. 7 weeks ago he had an accident and broke his leg meaning he will not be able to work for about 5 months

[SayItIsntSo]

Did he give you a general idea of why he wanted to break up? If he is asking for aoace, you have to respect him... However, If he didn't give a reason I think it's okay to be hurt and ask for closure( an explanation etc)

[Lily]

Men anticipate very specific reactions when they tell their girlfriends that they want to leave. They know it's difficult to hear that the man you love is over you, so they expect that you'll go off the emotional deep end. Typically this means things like calling him repeatedly asking for another chance or enlisting the help of mutual friends to talk to him about the break up. You feel the urge to do these things because you believe, sincerely, that they'll help. They won't though. The will hurt your chances of getting him back.

The very best move any woman can make if her boyfriend wants to break up is to agree with him. Tell him that you understand what he's feeling. Explain to him that you feel a sense of relief now because you've been debating the idea of a break up yourself. Just make it clear to him that you're good with the break up.

You may be wondering how accepting that he wants to leave you will actually help you. The reasoning behind this is actually very simple and plays on a man's innate human nature. No one, regardless of gender, does well with rejection. It stings when someone tells you they don't want you anymore. That's exactly why you need to accept that he wants to leave you. By accepting you're in turn rejecting him. He'll feel abandoned and alone even though the break up was initially his idea. He won't be able to tolerate that feeling for long. The knowledge that you no longer wanted him will eat at his ego until he can't stand it anymore. That's when he'll decide that he needs you back.

It's not easy to accomplish this. That's especially true when every pore in your body is wishing he'd reconsider his decision to leave. You need to be strong and let him go for now though. Show him that you're fine without him and it will make him want you more and more.

[Anthony]

If you're asking yourself, "how can I get my ex boyfriend back?," there are things one can do in order to bring back the spark and magic in the relationship. This holds true especially if as the girlfriend you feel the breakup was not a wise idea.

Let's take a look at a few things you should due to put you on the path to getting your ex boyfriend back.

Take some time apart

Even though the break up is difficult and being apart is even more painful, the first thing you need to do is take some time apart. Taking time apart during the break up will allow you to have cool heads so that in the next step, you can be able to approach the underlying issues with a logical mind.

Remember, never try to get back together immediately after a break up as it will lead to another break up in the coming future. The underlying issues that caused the break up need to be solved first. Taking a road trip with your friends as a change of scenery will allow time to heal as you meditate on the issues.

Determine the cause

The second step you need to do is determine the cause of your break up. Once you have determined the cause, you need to know where you went wrong leading to the breakup. First, start with the general issue then follow by examining the underlying specific issues.

It is important as a woman not to involve emotions but engage the issues with a logical approach. Putting emotions in the present situation will resort to the previous situation, which is break up. You need to understand that blame cannot be put on one party alone but on both. The first road to healing is to accept that both of you committed mistakes.

Say I'm Sorry

Even though your partner may have wronged you, you need to say I'm sorry. Being apologetic is one of the most important steps to get your ex boyfriend back and in gaining the trust of your partner. Remember, during your break up you may have said things or done things that may have offended your partner.

Making an apology means that you have come to terms with all the underlying issues and are ready to work on your future relationship.

Let go of the past

Once you have been apologetic and regained the trust of your partner and your partner has decided to give you another chance, you need to let go of the past. All issues that led to your break up need to be put in the forgotten box and tossed into the ocean of things gone by.

Instead talk with your partner letting them know how you would like them to be in your future instead of them being your ex. Soon the question of, "how do I get my ex boyfriend back?" will be a thing of the past for you.

[Lesleyloo1]

Update so it’s been a couple of weeks now and he’s contacted me quite regularly we did have a good chat and he expressed that he did feel pressured by me checking in with him each day as he has lots of other stresses right now with not working still and financially struggling etc ..he says that we are so good together and he loves me but he just needs to be on his own whilst he’s struggling with the other stuff ..he said he might feel differently soon but right now he doesent feel he can be with me

[Lesleyloo1]

Do you think there’s still a chance we will get through this?