Can't stop thinking about my ex

[Pidge24]

A bit of background for you - I (f/26) have been with my bf (m/26) for almost 2 years. It's been a turbulent relationship because he's been working through some deep seated trust/control/insecurity issues.
At the weekend we attended a friend's party together. I'd seen on fb that my ex was also attending. I spoke to my partner about this, and we both agreed that it would be fine.
This ex I was with for a year or so, but towards the end of the relationship I fell pregnant and we decided we couldn't afford to keep the baby in our current situation. This decision hit me hard and I suffered with severe depression. This got so bad that I decided I had to move away to make a new start. We agreed to split, which hurt us both. Shortly afterwards my ex moved to new Zealand and I hadn't seen him for about 3 years (spoke every now and then) until he turned up at this party.
Honestly it hit me like a freight train. All the old feeling came back. We had a very brief chat and he seemed happy to see me. It's now 3days later and I just can't get him out of my head. Even when I'm around my partner, I'm just thinking about my ex.
I have no idea what to do.. And no idea if my ex is feeling the same way.?
Does this mean I should split up with my current partner?
Help!

[Brett]

I don't think it's a good idea to go back to your ex. If it didn't work out before, there is a probability it might not work out again. So, stick to your present relationship and work on making it better. Your ex is an ex for a reason, and so let him remain an ex.

[Sofia]

How to tell if your ex boyfriend wants you back. If your ex partner is playing hard to get and not letting on they want you back, don't mess up and make a fool of yourself trying to find out. If this person loves you the signs will show. Whatever you do don't misread these signs because you'll never live it down.

Signs Your Ex Wants You Back

Usually, couples that split move on and go their own way. However, if your ex sticks around showing genuine interest in you, then they still care.

Non-verbal communication: It's definitely a sign when your ex can't take their eyes off you, but the thing is, is it good or bad sign? Bad sign: They stare because they believe they had a lucky escape. Good Sign: They watch realizing how close they have come to losing you forever. If you're every move is constantly monitored by your ex and with a smile, take this as a positive as opposed to negative. Keep eye contact as it increases the chances of getting close. If there's distance between you, lets say in a night club and they slowly edge towards you, allow them time at your side as its likely the moment the sorry will come.

Hanging around: The law of average when two people break up they'll bump into each other at sometime. But when that sometime turns into all the time, and in places you least expect to see your ex, then its a sign they're not giving up on getting back with you. Don't accuse your ex of being a stalker just because they turn up everywhere you happen to be. What this means is, they want to be close and protect you, but will they admit to this if confronted. Some will bottle up their feelings and no one is any the wiser. Now its been proven your ex still cares through their stalking antics, YOU need to wade in and get them to open up. Why let the relationship suffer as result of his or her stubbornness when your future happiness may depend on it.

Meeting: If your ex asks to meet up for a coffee and a chat give them the benefit of the doubt and agree to the meeting. They obviously want to talk - but what about?. Don't panic that it be something bad they have to say. What other reason when it's over between the pair of you could your ex possibly have for wanting to talk, other than wanting to make up. If it's a spouse matter then you panic. Divorce can be nasty business with ongoing bitchy conversations and arguments over who is getting what when the house sells. Marriage dilemmas as such wont apply to you of course because you're single, well for the time being anyway. Your relationship status will depend on the outcome of the meeting. If your ex offers to buy you coffee its a sign they're missing being with you.

Apology: If the split was due to a petty argument where things were said in the heat of the moment, don't dig your heels into the ground when they come by to say sorry. It takes two to tango. Maybe you said things you regret, so if there's call for you to admit to being in the wrong, own up. An apology is a sign your ex wants you back. If it wasn't why else would they come suck-holing.

Other signs: If your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend talks about you to friends and family asking of your wellness and wanting to know what you're doing with your life since you broke up, don't see it as being nosy, but more a sign they can't let you go.

[Jerome]

Does your ex still think about you? Use these 8 ways to tell whether or not you are on your ex's mind:

#8: Word Of Mouth - If you can see or overhear that your ex talks about you to their family, friends, or colleagues, it's clear that they still think about you. You can see if they talk about you by monitoring their Facebook or social accounts as well.

#7: Contact Is Still Open - If an ex keeps contact and communication open (even if they don't always respond, or even if they ignore you), it's clear they DO want to hear from you, and DO still think about you.

#6: Dating Is Out Of The Question - You know your ex hasn't dated anyone since. They may talk to people, but they just don't take anything further. A person only does that when they are not over their last love.

#5: Your Ex Asks You If You Are Still Single- The only reason your ex wants to know this is because you are still on their mind and they are still attracted to you. It bothers them to think that you are moving on or are dating again.

#4: Your Ex Stalks You - You may not realize it but they look at your Facebook, or watch for updates wherever you go online. A simple way to test this is to create a YouTube account, put up a couple videos of yourself in it, and send it to your ex and tell them you've got a YouTube account. Watch your account views, and if they go up steadily, you can tell that your ex is monitoring you all the time.

#3: You Call And Your Ex Eagerly Answers - Before your ex might have ignored you, but now your ex picks up and talks to you. Moreover, your ex picks up right away, and if you say you want to go, they become anxious and want to keep you on the phone longer.

#2: Your Ex Apologizes - They will call you sometimes and will apologize, even for things which you have long since forgot about; or they will just continuously say they are sorry or that they messed up. This means your ex has been reflecting and misses you.

#1: Your Ex Will Meet You - A simple way to tell if your ex has been missing you is to suggest a meeting; if your ex is extremely open to the idea and even suggests that you should meet today; it's clear they miss you and you have been on their mind.