ive been dating the love of my life. for 2.5 years now. we met online after an abusive relationship i had for almost 3 years with my ex.
Things were quick and passionate with us but we had out usual ups and downs.
the first 1.5 years were long distance so we only spent time most weekends and at the beginning my spending time with my friends would often be an issue as we only had 3 days to spend, due to that id rather not tell him when i was out with my friends ( usually girls or my gay best friends) just because the fights were just too much to handle for me emotionally as he tends to run his mouth when we fight. i tip toed around cause i just wanted to make everyone happy.
about a year ago i moved back and he finally met my mother. throughout our relationship, he never told his family about me while i was always keeping mine updated about it. marriage talks were vague but he swears he was concrete about it. despite my brother persuading him to come over for a religious holiday, he took that as a threat and we fought about it.
a month ago we finally went house hunting because i decided to get a place as an investment. he turned those visits into his effort to make the future work but it just frustrated me because i dont think he is serious,
a month ago, an old flame decided to drop me a message and i stupidly replied. i fell back into old patterns and started talking inappropriately to this fling ( sexually not romantically) and i got found out. the shock kicked in first but now i know ive broken the heart of someone who truly loved me. i want him back but hes just angry and verbally abusive now. throwing the fact that he was ready to marry me in my face and i am crushed.
can someone tell me what i can do to save us. ive cut ties with this fling and i couldnt care less about losing him because i want my life back with my love
please please help me.
Things were quick and passionate with us but we had out usual ups and downs.
the first 1.5 years were long distance so we only spent time most weekends and at the beginning my spending time with my friends would often be an issue as we only had 3 days to spend, due to that id rather not tell him when i was out with my friends ( usually girls or my gay best friends) just because the fights were just too much to handle for me emotionally as he tends to run his mouth when we fight. i tip toed around cause i just wanted to make everyone happy.
about a year ago i moved back and he finally met my mother. throughout our relationship, he never told his family about me while i was always keeping mine updated about it. marriage talks were vague but he swears he was concrete about it. despite my brother persuading him to come over for a religious holiday, he took that as a threat and we fought about it.
a month ago we finally went house hunting because i decided to get a place as an investment. he turned those visits into his effort to make the future work but it just frustrated me because i dont think he is serious,
a month ago, an old flame decided to drop me a message and i stupidly replied. i fell back into old patterns and started talking inappropriately to this fling ( sexually not romantically) and i got found out. the shock kicked in first but now i know ive broken the heart of someone who truly loved me. i want him back but hes just angry and verbally abusive now. throwing the fact that he was ready to marry me in my face and i am crushed.
can someone tell me what i can do to save us. ive cut ties with this fling and i couldnt care less about losing him because i want my life back with my love
please please help me.
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