Need some advice

[mamr12]

i've liked this girl for a year and in the past months we've been flirting a lot, but we've only officially dated a bit over a month. In the past weeks i've been feeling sad due to some personal issues and i wasnt paying enough attention to her and she felt empty, the thing is she broke up with me a few days ago but we remained friends and talked a lot. One day she mentioned she found a rebound and i honestly felt jealous, i was planning on getting back together when i felt better but i was scared because she found someone else so i rushed things and asked her out again.

We dated again but she was still talking with that guy but i dont have any issues with her having other male friends so i didnt care really, a week after that we were talking on the phone and she was crying and broke up with me again. After things calmed down i asked her if there was anyone else and she answered "yes" i had my doubts but i feel guilty because i wasnt being my usual self. She also said she was not going to date him because she was still getting over me and we are still friends.

Yesterday she told me she was going to date that guy and since then i feel like crap, i still love her and i would do anything to get her back. Its funny how we dont appreciate what we have until we lose it.We talked about this for a few hours and both of us want to give it another try if that doesnt work out, but what i find really odd is that both are "rebounds" and he suddenly loves her after knowing her for a bit under 2 weeks, i cant help but think that he will hurt her. Like he is so good to her and just perfect when he barely knows her and to be honest i have a bad feeling about this.

I think that won't last long because i think he is just using her to get over his ex and seems like he is just trying too hard to be a perfect boyfriend to get something out of it, on the other hand i think she just needs a break from me and i honestly believe her when she said she wants to be with me if that doesnt work out. I dont know, everything is weird, do you think that rebound relationship will work out? Will she date me again after that?
What are your thoughts?

[Sofia]

If your ex girlfriend is in a rebound relationship you have to take a slightly different approach to get her back than you would if she were single. You can't simply ignore the fact that there's another man in her life. If you act like he doesn't exist, you're going to alienate her. That's why trying to send her flowers or writing her long, heartfelt love notes just isn't a good idea. You have to be mature and you must acknowledge that he's someone who is important to her. You can actually use their relationship to help you win her back if you know how to do that.

Start by approaching her from a place of strictly friendship. You should call her up and tell her that you'd love to see her some time. It's very possible that she'll mention him and if she does, invite him along. Tell her that you've been looking forward to meeting him and sound sincere when you say this. It will most certainly be surprising to her to hear that you're not only accepting of her new guy but you're eager to meet him to.

Be on your best behavior when you do see them. Don't be too affectionate with her. Just a quick hug is enough. Shake his hand and mean it. Smile and tell him that you're happy to meet him. This initial meeting is going to set the stage for you to steal her back. If you handle it right he's going to see you as someone who is just an old friend and not threatening at all. She'll view you as an old boyfriend who is now over her and this will ensure she'll accept you back into her life as a trusted friend.

Keep in contact with her but do it in such a way that it's all open to him. Don't ask her to meet you for lunch by herself and don't send her emails that make her feel uncomfortable when she reads them. You must view her as a platonic friend so she'll view you the same way.

In time she's going to start confiding in you. All women need a male friend's unique perspective on their romantic relationship. Once she does start talking about her boyfriend, don't talk poorly about him. Let her share what she feels and be incredibly supportive. She'll soon start to see you as the voice of reason and compassion in her life. As that happens she'll be pulled closer towards you emotionally and farther away from him.

[Clinton]

A rebound relationship is just a filler relationship. Relationships like this don't last because it is somewhat of a fabrication to fill the void of the old relationship. This kind of relationship makes it easier for her to forget you and your old relationship.

You are in the best possible situation right now. Knowing the information at hand, you know that she is not completely over you. There is still a chance that you can win her love back.

A relationship based on real love is hard to completely break. It does not matter whether it is her fault or yours. If your relationship is very serious and based on love, you can still fix the relationship.

The anatomy of a rebound relationship is the law of opposites. If you like reading books and poems she might go for a guy who likes sports. If you like musical theater then she would probably go for a guy who likes the NFL. She will find someone your opposite just to get over you.

Knowing this, do not force her to make up with you. Let her alone for a few months. During this month of no contact with her, she will see the flaws of her new lover. She will most likely realize that she is better off with you.

Do not do the chasing and pleading. She will get around to you eventually and break up the rebound relationship. When she sends feelers that she wants to make up with you, this is the time that you welcome her again with open arms.

Rebound relationships do not usually work. This is just a fact. You can take advantage of this situation by giving your ex girlfriend some breathing room to think for herself. Just remember that the rebound relationship means she is still thinking of you.

[mamr12]

Thanks for the advice i really appreciate it, just a small update:I know i should give her some space but i just had to speak with her. Last night i texted her and asked her if she was busy because i wanted to call her, she told she was watching a movie with her new bf so i replied "its okay, watch the movie and let me know when you are done". I went to the kitchen to get something to eat but i ran back because i heard my phone ringing, it was her, she decided to call me and leave her bf hanging i told her that i could wait and she should watch the movie first. The thing is we just talked about a few things and had a heart to heart conversation; I asked her if she still loved me, she replied with a "yes." and jokingly i asked her if she loved me more than her new bf and i was suprised when she said she didnt love him, hearing that made my night so i asked her " if we still love each other and you dont love him why cant we be together again?" she replied "I cant just break up with him".At the end i told her i was going to sleep and said I love you, you told me she loved me back.

Honestly i feel bad for getting in between a relationship but at the same time i think there's still hope and that made me happy, I still find confusing that she is dating someone she doesnt love when we could be working on our relationship.
What should i do next?