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Started dating a widower of then 18 months over a year ago, we are extremely similar, instant connection.
I endured the usual, deceased wife's clothes in closets, pictures everywhere, introduced as a friend not girlfriend.
Lots of romantic text messages but one day he'd text he loves me, I'm his girlfriend, the next I was his companion and friend.
My photographs reversed to be invisible one day.
Carried his wife's photo on his laptop when we travelled and viewed it each morning and night before bed.
Never posted pictures of his trip on Facebook and was alarmed that his Facebook aquantances.might see a photo of him with me on my account. So I unfriended him on there to avoid trouble. Was told by his sister in law that I'd only ever be a friend and companion as he'd never get over the death of his wife sufficiently but he claimed that was crap.
Close friends and family accepted me. He just didn't want the greater community to see a closeness between us.
I couldn't raise the issues in person. Our other communication was text or email, phone calls non existent. So I put my thoughts down in email, bad move, I did it many times trying to address how I felt. Respecting his deceased wife but telling him I needed to have a place.
I haven't seen him for nearly 3 months. Since I was seriously ill in hospital and he had difficulty visiting me because of reminders of his wife's passing.
Six weeks ago he said his feelings had been worn down by my correspondence. He was in neutral. Up until 3 days ago he was still talking daily in text, sending hearts and kisses and said he still loved me.
Next he will have a decision after his upcoming holiday, then all of a sudden he says he doesn't feel the same and it's a definite no.
I've told him what I think, that he had no right to leave me sit in limbo sending the messages he did. I love this man.
Has he really gone?
I endured the usual, deceased wife's clothes in closets, pictures everywhere, introduced as a friend not girlfriend.
Lots of romantic text messages but one day he'd text he loves me, I'm his girlfriend, the next I was his companion and friend.
My photographs reversed to be invisible one day.
Carried his wife's photo on his laptop when we travelled and viewed it each morning and night before bed.
Never posted pictures of his trip on Facebook and was alarmed that his Facebook aquantances.might see a photo of him with me on my account. So I unfriended him on there to avoid trouble. Was told by his sister in law that I'd only ever be a friend and companion as he'd never get over the death of his wife sufficiently but he claimed that was crap.
Close friends and family accepted me. He just didn't want the greater community to see a closeness between us.
I couldn't raise the issues in person. Our other communication was text or email, phone calls non existent. So I put my thoughts down in email, bad move, I did it many times trying to address how I felt. Respecting his deceased wife but telling him I needed to have a place.
I haven't seen him for nearly 3 months. Since I was seriously ill in hospital and he had difficulty visiting me because of reminders of his wife's passing.
Six weeks ago he said his feelings had been worn down by my correspondence. He was in neutral. Up until 3 days ago he was still talking daily in text, sending hearts and kisses and said he still loved me.
Next he will have a decision after his upcoming holiday, then all of a sudden he says he doesn't feel the same and it's a definite no.
I've told him what I think, that he had no right to leave me sit in limbo sending the messages he did. I love this man.
Has he really gone?
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