Just broke up I’m struggling to deal with it

[Iash101]

Hi my names ian good to meet you all !
My partner and I have just broke up we’ve only been together 7 months though practically lived together for the last 5.
im devastated I’m really struggling to cope , we had everything together , enjoyed all the same hobbies .
I will confess it’s all my fault I’ve been under massive stress in work lately , I became very distant and snappy something I deeply regret .
I had to collect my belongings from her house today , there was lots of tears hugs and telling each other we love each other , it was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do .
I’ve tried asking her to give me another chance but she’s stopped replying to my texts etc ..
my question is what shall I do next , leave her alone and hope she has a change of heart or keep trying to convince her to give me another go ?
Regards ian

[Gray]

People often say this with regard to break ups, "If you love something enough let it go free, if it doesn't return it was never meant to be."

It is comforting to think that fate will somehow handle our lives, but the fact is that your current situation is due to cause and effect, and so is your future.

If you truly value your relationship with your ex and want to win them back, you are going to have to cause it to happen.

If you decide to just wait and see whether your ex changes his or her mind, you are taking a passive and lazy approach which is not likely to work out in your favor.

In order for your ex to change their mind, they have to change their mind about the reasons they had for the breakup. In normal circumstances, this probably is not going to happen.

A more active approach is for you to "cause" your ex to change their mind about the reasons they had for the breakup. In other words, you have to be attractive enough so that the reasons for the breakup become insignificant.

However, this does not equate to stalking, arguing, or anything else that would only cement your ex's decision to break up with you.

Rather, this involves you working on who you are, allowing your ex to realize that you are a different person than you were before. When they realize this, they will be much more likely to "give you another chance."

[Sandra]

When it comes to walking away from a past love that you want back, there are certain steps that you have to take first. You may be tempted to call her up and make a big announcement about how you've decided to leave her alone because you're stronger now and you see the value in some time apart. As honourable as this seems, don't do it. It will actually ensure that your ex girlfriend sees you as someone who is playing games with her heart. In her eyes, you'll be seen as a man with an agenda who is looking for a response from her. That's why it's better if you just simply drop out of sight for a time.

In almost every case of a break up in history, one partner wasn't accepting of it. That's the person who fights tooth and nail to hold the relationship together. That's also the person who ends up feeling even more rejected and questioning their own self worth. When you're throwing yourself at someone's feet it devalues who you are. It shows that you're desperate and emotionally unstable. That's why walking away and washing your hands of the situation for a time is so helpful.

Absence is a powerful thing. We don't often recognize that because we're so accustomed to trying to work conflict out by talking and compromising. However, once someone has vacated your life and completely cut off contact, you're going to feel a void. There will be a big, gaping hole that they used to fill. If you leave your ex girlfriend alone, she's going to feel that hole beginning today and it will wear at her heart. Suddenly, she'll be faced with the realization that you may just be completely done with her after all. That silent threat of a love being taken away forever is powerful and it will make her want to talk with you again. Once that happens, getting back together is within sight.