Dumped for her friend

[nfootball23]

Me and my ex gf and my frat brother (I was pledging) all met the same day and we started dating shortly after. My ex and my brother texted every day and even hung out a couple times alone while we were dating (we dated for 1 year). I trusted both of them. Towards the end of the relationship, I noticed her being more private with her phone and texting him a lot. I regret not saying anything about it as I was in denial and didn't want her to get defensive.

My ex broke up with me for "not texting her enough and not paying enough attention to her." She is pretty needy and said "I require a lot of attention." Her friend texted her/paid more attention than I did and I think she compared us or just fell in love with him. She never mentioned him at the break up but Insaw them flirting about 2 weeks after. I remained in contact with her to "work on things" while she had time to think (big mistake). I guess I felt bad and acted desperate since I didn't meet her emotional needs and she felt taken for granted. I also feared that she left me for him (which is what it looks like).

They started dating behind my back after the breakup and I didn't know until my other friends notified me. She continues to lie and denies it after confronting her so I just started NC (even though it's 3 months after the breakup). I need advice on how to get her back because I still love her.

[Paul]

As you know that there are many things you can do to win back your ex girlfriend. However, believe it or not, trying to talk to your ex girlfriend is not going to be easy it all, especially if you were dumped. Actually, you don't know when you should call her, you don't know what to say to her, and you have no idea how she will react. This can be considered to be the most stressful part to win her back. However, if you can find a good reason to contact her, then it will be easier to start your conversation with your ex.

Below are 5 ideas that you can get her attention in order to be the good start to win back your ex girlfriend.

1. You may ask for help. If she still has any feelings left for you, then she will not say no when you need help. For example, you might tell her that you need a place to stay for a while because your house need to be repainted. However, you need to make sure that you have covered everything because if she knows that you lied, then you are killing your chances to win back your ex girlfriend.

2. You may offer your help. This method is opposite to the number 1 mentioned above. This time, you should try to help her with something that may be difficult for her, but easy for you. However, you have to be careful not to make her feels like you are trying to impress her. Just do what you have to do to help her, that's all. She may not call you again, but you have to be fine with that. Do not do anything to push her. Remember, you want to win back your ex girlfriend, not to push her away.

3. Do not totally disappear from your ex girlfriend's life and expect that she will miss you. It does not work that way. If you totally disappear from her life, then she will totally forget about you as well. You need to be seen by your ex once in a while, and you have to be cool, though. However, this doesn't mean that you should follow her around. Just try to spend time with your friends and do things that you want to do. You just want her to see you having fun. You may talk to her when you accidentally run into her, but you should be the one to end the conversation. This is considered to be one of the techniques to win back your ex girlfriend as well.

4. You may share your success with her. This should be done through texts or voicemail. For example, you may let her know that you have the top score on your final exam. However, you need to be careful not to brag. You may let her know that the reason you decided to share this with her is because she is the one who understands how hard you worked for it. This should be the good start for you to win back your ex girlfriend.

5. You may send her the information she likes. You should use internet in order to do this. You should know about what she likes, such as, her favorite bands, her favorite TV shows, or her favorite sport teams. Then, you can send your message to her as soon as some news is released.

You may use these ideas mentioned above, or you may come up with your own ideas, but the important thing is to find a real good reason to start conversation with your ex girlfriend again. It is a fact that it is not going to be easy as previously stated, but if you keep trying, then, you may be able to get her to open up to you again finally.

[Shirley]

Is it possible to get your ex girlfriend back from another man? Virtually anything is possible when it comes to love. It pains you inside to know that she's moved on from you and is already seeing someone else. You picture the two of them together and you can feel your blood pressure rising. It does not have to be this way at all. You can take simple steps to steal her back from him.

When you're thinking about how to get your ex girlfriend back from another man what's the first idea that pops into your head? I'm going to guess it has a lot to do with making him look unappealing in her eyes. Many men before you who have been in the same situation have tried this tactic. It typically involves things like digging up dirt from his past or even trying to lure him into a compromising situation. Anything like this should be on a list of things to not do to try and steal her back from him. This just does not work and it's something that you should completely avoid at all costs.

You really must view things from a big picture standpoint if you want to steal your ex back from her new guy. This is going to take a good deal of effort and patience on your part but obviously the end result is a renewed romance with the woman you adore.

Here's what you need to do first. Be her friend. You have to find a new place for yourself within her life. She has a boyfriend at the moment and it's not you. The sooner you can accept that, the better for everyone involved. You should definitely see your newfound friendship with her as a starting point. You'll work towards being more again but for now, this is where you need to start.

Getting close to her again has to be your main goal. That's why a friendship is the best solution. You're going to be the type of friend she can turn to for everything, even to talk about the problems she's going through in her new relationship.

Part of becoming a trusted and supportive friend is being kind and considerate to the new guy. This may very well be the most challenging part of stealing her back. You have to act like you like him and you can't seem jealous when you're around him. Doing that will make you look petty and insincere.

As you move forward with your ex, do everything you can to show her why you're an essential part of her life. She'll start to feel closer to you again and as the cracks begin to show in her new romance, you'll be the strong shoulder she'll rely on. That's the foundation you must have in order to get her back again.

[nfootball23]

Keep in mind this is my frat brother, so it's quite wrong and humiliating. My friends lose respect for me when I talk to her and say "she's being a slut" (which is not entirely wrong). She flirted with him and hung out with him alone once while we dated. I'm currently NC and she started to miss me and got upset that I don't want to talk/be friends right now. She even flirted with me a couple weeks ago...