I can’t move on

[qyunnie]

Hi,

My boyfriend of 1 year recently broke up with me, saying that i deserve better. We broke up over a few reasons.
Firstly, he will be going to jail for a year for something he did long ago and he doesn’t want me to wait. This wasn’t really a problem at first because when i found out i told him i would wait and he was okay with it. But when he broke up with me he told me he wouldn’t want me to wait, that i have to think for my future and not waste my time waiting. I don’t even think 1 year is that long.

The other reason was our communication. He says he doesn’t want to tell me how he feels sometimes because i will get sensitive. Recently i wanted to watch a movie alone and he got so upset saying that i shouldnt be doing that and should just wait for the time we meet and we can watch the movie together. He said that if i do it alone he feels useless as a boyfriend, because he will not be there with me. I told him that sometimes i just need time alone and it’s not about him, and we ended up arguing.

Also i don’t usually tell him when i’m feeling down or upset because i don’t want to add on to his stress, i know he has pressures at work and all. So he said that he feels like he isn’t doing his part as a boyfriend. We end up arguing over such stuff and i tend to give him a cold shoulder for awhile because i don’t know how to face it, and this made him tired of trying everytime because whenever he wants to solve a problem it doesn’t work.

He decided to break up with me, saying that i deserve a better man. And that as much as he loves me he has to let me go for the sake of my future. He said that we should remain friends instead.

I don’t want to let him go. I spent the time after breakup reflecting on what went wrong and learning from my mistakes and i want to save the relationship. But at the same time i’m also thinking if our relationship has been hurting him. He said that we made a great couple, with very minimal quarrels but just that we were too different.

I don’t know what to do and i don’t want to give up on him. I keep thinking of him and he even appears in my dream, i have no motivation to do anything. He will be getting his jail sentence soon.

I would love some advice on what to do?

[bunnyhabit]

You appear incompatible. He will change in prison with a boyfriend for a year. I suggest you date around while he is Prison to see if you can find a better partner. I think maybe he will not return to you in a year since trying to dump you, now

[matthew66153]

If you still believe that there is something there you have to hold onto that and never let that go, there is still ways to get him back, he may be trying to protect you at the end of the day because he is ashamed that he is going to jail and doesn't want you to have the burden of missing him while he is gone. That's because he still cares and you just have to show him that you will support him through this time and be there for him always. I saw this video on how to keep a man in your life forever and if you truly love him this much it is so worth watching it put so many things into perspective for me. Message me if you want me to send you the video!