What should I do?

[mxcgrw]

Hi Guys,

I am new here. I have a certain situation I need advice on. So here it goes.

I have been married for 12 years few months ago I got divorced. I have a friend whom I new for over 10 years. Soon after divorce We have been seeing each other casually. I have fallen in love with her. She also had strong feelings for me. She did say she is not sure if she can cope with the fact I have 2 kids but that she'll give it a go. So for few months it was really good. We spent quality time together, had great sex etc. Recently I have been feeling bit down mainly due to me missing my kids and I have been bit distant to her. Few days ago we had a chat and she said she don't think it will work - the fact I have kids. And that she needs some space but she would like to stay friends.

I do think she's the ONE. She has a qualities of my perfect woman.

So now I'm devastated. Each time I see her as friend, it's absolutely killing me. I can't sleep can't eat. Keep checking my phone every 5 mins.

Should I try to change her mind? Even if she said it's a definite no?

I don't think I can handle just friends situation as I'm certain it will cause my heart to burst.

I am thinking more and more about completely cutting her off. Cease any contact forever. Delete her number, unfriend on facebook etc. I know this will be killing me but maybe with time I will heal.

What do you think I should do? Try to get her back, pretend I'm ok with being friends so I can see her or say goodbye forever?

Thank you

[Tina]

If she doesn't want to be with you, then don't agree to be friends with her. Cutting her off completely is better because it will make her miss you and realize she wants you. However, being friends with her won't make her miss you, but she will keep you around while she starts dating someone else.

[David]

Don't make the mistake of begging and pleading for her to take you back because this will make you appear unattractive. Rather, I'll advice you give her space and don't agree to be friends with her. This way, she'll realize she either has to have you as a lover or risk losing you forever. This will prompt her to come back to you fast.