Running out of ideas ?

[radioactive13]

Wrote here several months ago.I will do so again, hoping to get some good advice. Broke up with my ex more than a year ago, in such a way that she felt like I didnt care for her, Not even one bit and didnt contact her for a few months. In less than 2 months the break up she got a new boyfriend and they are still together( nearly a year now). At the start, I thought it was a rebound relationship, but can it still be(?), considering it has been lasting nearly a year now ? Over the last year, I've made absolutely everything possible to win her back. So many fantastic gestures and so on, but she still stayed strong and didnt want leave him(she is a very proud person) and get back with me. Recently I've had the idea to give up and stop fighting to get her back, as there are not many things left for me to try and do but I'm still not really to give up yet. Here's some examples on why I'm not sure if her relationship is a rebound or not:
-When I first contact her with a text bout her birthday when she was already with this new guy she said I ruined her birthday after sending her the text(it was a really nice text)
-She told me once how after me she just wanted someone to be good with her. Nothing else. This was her only requirment from a guy.
-She said to me it was the worst few months of her life after I broke up with her(and she was feeling so low and depressed all the time)
-Over the last year she did cheat on him with me physically and most importanly emotionally as there were some periods where we would talk every day for weeks up until 4 am and she would say akward things such as its wrong staying and talking all night while I have a boyfriend(this was 6 months in their relationship)
-Most of the times she refuses to meet with me now as she feels guilty lying to her boyfriend. Last time we met(like a month ago she told me she is being more loyal to me than him for some reason and that if he finds out that we see each other from time to time he will leave her straight away.
-She would still very often post on socia media such as facebook ''our song'' ( 4 times in the last year)
-There has been so many sings that she still loves me and I have tried over the last 4-5 months many times to leave her alone and have told her I dont want to keep in touch if she is gonna stay with this guy, but she kept on calling or texting every now and then, telling how I dont get the right to dumb out of my life again.


Here is some of the reasons why I dont think her relationship is a rebound one, or it started like that but it turned into something more:
-Its been almost a year / He met her parents / She is still with him after everything I did to get her back(trust me it was a lot)

Since I've done everything to redeem myself and win her back and it didnt work out. I've told her many times that I can break her up with her boyfriend in 10 different ways, because he is clueless about what's happening between us, but I told her I will never do it and I want her to wannna be with me because she wants, not becasue I made it happen.
The only 2 things I have tried yet is :
1.Making her jealous(She is very jealous of me. Always have been, always things every girl that meets is massively inloved with me. Three months ago she was bout to go on a holiday with her boyfriend to the beach and I was bout to hit the beach as well and she asked me like 10 times if I was going there with a girl. Bottom line is, she still very jealous of me, even tho she is in a 1 year relationshp and I'm thinking if I should tell her that I've met someone and I'm in a relationship just too se if this will drive her crazy or not.
2. Stop replying to her( She could go on for about a month or so without texting or calling, but eventally she always does) I think if stop, she might not take it very well and do something about it.

Any ideas guys ??? My friends said that altho I've been a massive asshole to her when I left her, I've done amazing things to win her back and that she is just crazy to stay with that other guy considering how she is with me and that she is still inloved with me and I need to stop contact with her, because she is not worht it. I'm not quite ready to do so yet.

[Rachael]

The first step you need to take when you want to steal back your ex girlfriend is to not show any signs of jealousy. This may not be easy but it's essential if you seriously want to get her back. The moment you show her that you've got a problem with her dating another man, you risk losing her forever. Jealousy is a sign of weakness and you don't want her to see you as weak. If you do run into them, be cordial and friendly. Give him a firm handshake and wish them well. Don't stand around subjecting yourself to the misery of seeing the woman you love with someone else. Don't ignore him and only talk to her. Instead, be the bigger person and slap on a smile. Be friendly and then excuse yourself. This act alone will reignite your ex's interest. She'll immediately wonder why you are so okay with her dating another man. Her mind will race and she may even start to imagine that you've taken up with someone yourself. Your actions will leave her with lingering thoughts of you, which is exactly what you want.

Don't sit at home pining for your ex while she's out having fun with another guy. Dating someone else isn't recommended for several reasons. One is that you may give your ex the wrong impression that you have moved on. The other reason is that it's simply not fair to bring another woman into the mix when you know that you're still in love with your ex. Instead, go out with groups of friends and have fun. Your ex will get wind of it and it will help her see that your life didn't stop the moment you two split up. If you want to steal your ex girlfriend back you have to show her that you still are the confident, fun loving man she initially fell in love with.

[Jerome]

It is not easy to get your ex girlfriend back when she has a boyfriend. So, if this is your case, then you have two choices to select. You may give up and move on your life without her. Or you will not give up and try to get her back from her new guy. Actually, there are some simple methods to help you get her back from another guy. However, these methods require some patience and effort. If you are sure that you still love her and really want her back, then you should follow these steps in order to get her back even she has a boyfriend already.

Accept the breakup

If you want to get your ex girlfriend back when she has a boyfriend, first, you have to accept the breakup. It is not easy because you still want to get her back, but you need to do it. You will not be able to follow the plan until you decided to accept the breakup. Many guys are making the same mistake by trying to fight the breakup or trying to change her mind. This is not working at all. Besides, you are killing your chances to get her back as well because it looks like you are needy and desperate. In this situation, you need to be strong and confident.

Exclude yourself from the situation

If you want to get your ex girlfriend back when she has a boyfriend, you need to remove yourself from the situation. This is not easy as well since you have to disappear from her life. This is the best thing for you right now. The No Contact Rule should be used in this situation. Just turn off your phone, and your computer. By doing this, you will not be able to see your ex girlfriend dating with her new guy anyway. Besides, it is possible that she might miss you as well.

Just YOU only

If you want to get your ex girlfriend back when she has a boyfriend, there is one thing that you need to understand. When she is dating with her new man, you cannot do anything to stop it. Remember, you do not have any rights to do anything about this at all. So this is the good time for you to start doing something for yourself. For example, you may try to improve yourself, such as, your physical appearance. Besides, you should try to use this opportunity to clear your head as well. You may go to the gym and do some exercises in order to lose your extra weight. It is a fact that exercise is considered to be good for your body and your mind as well.

When you are in good shape, you should go to the mall and try to get yourself some new outfits. Believe it or not, dressing well can make you feel better. In addition, you will be able to build up your confidence and self esteem as well. So, the next time when you see your ex girlfriend, it is possible that she might feel attracted to you. Besides, becoming a new and better person will attract others to you as well.

Wait for your chance

If you really want to get your ex girlfriend back when she has a boyfriend, there is another thing that you need to understand. It is a fact that your ex girlfriend's new relationship will sure be fun and happy. She probably forgets you all since she is excited with her new man. As previously stated that you cannot do anything about this, but the good news is that there is a high possibility that her new relationship will fail within two months. If it really happens, then she will be most vulnerable during this period. It is possible that she will try to look for someone familiar to help her out of this bad dream. You will be her hero at this time by helping her through this difficult situation.

If her relationship continues, what you should do

It is a fact that once in a while, a new relationship as mentioned still continues on. So, you need to have a second plan if this happens. Actually, some of the techniques cannot be used when your ex girlfriend has a boyfriend. So, sometime, you may need to learn about some unorthodox techniques as well. For example, trying to put yourself between the two of them and trying to build a neutral trust in order to find your way back into her mind. Well, this is considered to be a tricky technique, so you should try to learn more about it.