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Alright, just as a bit of context:
My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago. We'd been dating for nearly 2 years but both of us had been having 'doubts' about the relationship and she finally came out and ended it. Despite those doubts, I was still pretty devastated and it still came as a surprise. I think the main issue was that the spark had gone from the relationship, we got stuck in to a routine, spent way too much time together early on etc and got way too comfortable.
Fast forward 3 months, and we've spoken on a number of occasions, for the first few weeks I was in bits and reached out a couple of times. Not to ask to get back together, but just your standard stuff like 'I still care' etc. We then didn't speak for about 3 weeks, I reached out again and this time she seemed very receptive but was then like 'I know it sound stupid but I do want to be friends' which obviously was a bit of a knife to the heart. We kept talking but I put it on ice again, until she reached out again recently.
We spoke for a long while, and then she hit me with another bomb, basically telling me she's signed up to tinder but trying to play it off as a joke. I didn't get why she would tell me that but didn't react and played it like it didn't bother me. I then kinda just stopped replying to her messages, but then woke up to her having triple texted me. I ignored it again, and then the next day she's tried to get the conversation started again.
Anyway, I'm basically looking for some advice on how to proceed .. I still haven't replied because I am very cautious of the fact that she might be wanting something I can't offer. On the other hand, our latest conversations were a little different .. she was reminiscing about our past a bit, and mentioning tinder to me made me think maybe she was trying to make me jealous. I'm not sure whether I should just continue to ignore unless she says something of genuine substance?
My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago. We'd been dating for nearly 2 years but both of us had been having 'doubts' about the relationship and she finally came out and ended it. Despite those doubts, I was still pretty devastated and it still came as a surprise. I think the main issue was that the spark had gone from the relationship, we got stuck in to a routine, spent way too much time together early on etc and got way too comfortable.
Fast forward 3 months, and we've spoken on a number of occasions, for the first few weeks I was in bits and reached out a couple of times. Not to ask to get back together, but just your standard stuff like 'I still care' etc. We then didn't speak for about 3 weeks, I reached out again and this time she seemed very receptive but was then like 'I know it sound stupid but I do want to be friends' which obviously was a bit of a knife to the heart. We kept talking but I put it on ice again, until she reached out again recently.
We spoke for a long while, and then she hit me with another bomb, basically telling me she's signed up to tinder but trying to play it off as a joke. I didn't get why she would tell me that but didn't react and played it like it didn't bother me. I then kinda just stopped replying to her messages, but then woke up to her having triple texted me. I ignored it again, and then the next day she's tried to get the conversation started again.
Anyway, I'm basically looking for some advice on how to proceed .. I still haven't replied because I am very cautious of the fact that she might be wanting something I can't offer. On the other hand, our latest conversations were a little different .. she was reminiscing about our past a bit, and mentioning tinder to me made me think maybe she was trying to make me jealous. I'm not sure whether I should just continue to ignore unless she says something of genuine substance?
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