The ex girlfriend just want to be friends thing. What to do?

[Lars77]

So me and my ex girlfriend recently started to have contact again, she broke up with me about 1,5 years ago. We went out for dinner and out to a club, she ended up sleeping at my place. We didn’t have sex, she was in her period. We spend most of the next day at my place and when she left we hugged and I gave her a kiss. The following day we spend some time again at my place and when she left we hugged and I again gave her a kiss and she asked me to call her later that night. I tried to call her but I think she has blocked my number, I’m not blocked on WhatsApp. I send her a text and she answered a couple of hour later. The next day I send her a message and she replied, so I have been the one initiating the communication and trying to keep it going. A couple of days ago I send a text asking her to go bowling and she said yes, however she wanted to know that I understand that we are just friends. I said sure, we are friends. She later replied that friends doesn’t kiss each other on the mouth. So what should I do, I still have feelings for her and want to be more than friends.

[bunnyhabit]

play it slow with her. she is panicking because you are coming on too fast too soon. do the platonic role for awhile and move up to romantic stage slowly. she dumped you before for some reason so be careful. not sure how you found out she was bleeding on first relapse date. if she volunteered dis info was probably a vagina protection story to alert you she wasn't ready for romance yet.

[Terry]

Yes, it is definitely painful that the person you love with all your heart no longer wants to be a part of your life.

However, you need to pull yourself together. There is always the off chance that you will still be offered the chance to play a part in her life albeit as a friend.

Girls often mystify guys by telling them that they no longer want to be together but are still amenable to a platonic relationship. Guys often find that very hard to swallow. After all, the both of you were intimate for some time so it would be rather too difficult to go back to the way things were in the past before the both of you started the relationship. On the other hand, the way you look at it, this is the best chance you will ever get of staying close to her even though in a totally different capacity.

Do not be too disheartened by how things turned out. You should be grateful that your ex-girlfriend is permitting you to remain a part of her life. At the very least, this should give you an idea that she values your friendship. You might find it difficult because you are still in love with her. However, coming on too strong when she has made it clear that she just wants to remain friends will scare her off even more. You should take this as a positive and learn to control your emotions.

When I say control your emotions, I mean to say that you need to accept that the dynamics of the relationship between the both of you have changed. You can no longer kiss her or hold her hand or hug her indiscriminately just like you used to. You should ask yourself honestly if you will be able to do this? If you think that you can't, you should try avoiding her for the time being at least until you have things under control. Like I said, she is giving you a chance to remain in her life. No point scaring her off by coming on too strong.

The best chance you have of staying by her side is showing her that you still genuinely care for her. Even though you are no longer together, as a friend, you still want the best for her and you are still willing to lend a helping hand no matter what is happening in her life. This gives you the opportunity to stay close to her and be by her side.

What you shouldn't do is to bring up the past all the time. This will only annoy her because she definitely does not want to be reminded of those times. Instead, content yourself with being her friend for the time being. Your honesty and sincerity will get over her eventually.