Infidelity/fighting. Should I just let go?

[Batman29]

My name is Derek, I'm 32. My gf is candaCa she's 35. We have been together 10 months. When we first started dating,.she was amazing, perfect,. everything I wanted! So we rushed and I moved in. And after that, I noticed she was different. She would like about guys from her past, and when she was drunk, she finally tell the truth. I was working a full time job and was paying all 1500 in child support with my checks. I needed to supplement my income to help support her and her kids, so I started my own business as well. Things got stressful, we fought more and more. And she eventually cheated. I chose to stay. Because in reality, I love her. But, I find it hard to show affection. I have caught her lying about multiple things. I've been open with my feelings and she gets defensive. She tells partiall truths. And Saturday she admitted to texting an "old friend" and offered me to look at her phone. But last night I noticed she deleted the texts completely. I honestly don't know what to do or think. Actually, I'm probably in denial. What hurts the most, is, I work 7 days a week to provide for 2 families, and I'm pretty sure I'm still getting cheated on. She says she loves me and wants to be with me. Advice? No condescending replies please.

[bunnyhabit]

if you can accept her cheating you should tell her that you prefer she be open about her other relationships as would prefer to have an honest relationship to her hiding her other lovers in lies. by lying and cheating she has no respect for you even though she says love. you are her provider so she will give you top billing but never her heart . if you want a loving mangomous relationship dump her and find a girl that meets your dreams

[Bradwin]

If you are sure she still cheats on you, then there is no need to still be with her. I think she's ungrateful and unappreciative. So, get rid of her and move on with your life.

[Ella]

Modern statistics on cheating are alarmingly high, and sadly growing on a daily basis. One of the most frustrating features of these statistics is that the number of women who cheat are almost equivalent to that of males who cheat. This has been noted as a factor of modern society and has only been seen in recent years. Below are more common reasons why females will cheat on their male partners.

Reason 1: She Needs Something From Her Partner, But Isn't Being Given It

It is human nature to present with particular needs, and successful relationships are those whereby both parties have their needs identified and met. For this to be done you will require a great level of effective communication between male and female. Both individuals must be able to discuss what their needs are, how they must be met and which are most important. Although this sounds simple enough, it can be extremely difficult to approach.

It should be noted that females can sometimes be completely unaware of what all their needs are. In some situations the female does not know she has a need until a male meets it - that is very difficult to compete with! Yet, this does not excuse an incidence of cheating but rather makes her vulnerable to the person meeting her unknown need.

Reason 2: The Person Gives Her Attention

It is generally the case that females who cheat do so due to a lack of attention. It is usually this female who expresses emotions of loneliness despite having a husband and family. This does not mean you need to have a conversation with her every night; you must pay attention to what she has to say.

By not noticing her at all you will be leaving her lonely and isolated making her highly vulnerable to those 'strings free' relationship males. All he has to do is listen to her discuss her 'mundane' life and she will fall prey to his whims.

Reason 3: She Believes She Is Being Taken For Granted By Her Family

The majority of females who have been in prolonged marriages feel completely unappreciated. It is generally seen that women feel their efforts are not noticed by their husband or family. Evidence shows that women usually believe no-one will notice if they are no longer present. It is at this point that a stranger can sweep her off her feet.

A female can question her position in a family if an appreciative individual comes along and spends time noticing her. By being the center of someone's universe, she feels she is no longer taken for granted and will experience enjoyable emotions. Cheating may occur because she does not wish to lose this excitable situation. Paying attention to someone can be extremely influential, and this explains why individuals who are not very attractive cheat with very attractive partners.

While modern statistics show equivalence in gender cheating, women are less likely to cheat due to the declined chance when comparing opportunities. Women's affairs are often more contemplative and less impromptu, which is why the act is more devastating to a marriage than a male case of cheating. However, one must still work towards maintaining a marriage and paying attention to your wife - you'll be amazed at the difference!