Heartbreak after emotional abuse

[Lorlorfaraj]

I've written a few posts about my experience having a relationship with an Iranian man.

I'm so heartbroken. Things properly ended a week ago after a very nasty fight. I wouldn't leave his car until he gave me reasons for why everything became like this. He kept shouting at me to get out and I got so angry he raised his fist at me thinking I was going to hit him.

I'm so heartbroken because I tried so hard to be flexible for him as he told me had to work 7 days a week. So i would travel to his house for an hour on a Saturday night to stay there for the night. He kept giving me false promises which kept me hopeful.

I feel so used and can't forget the romantic memories which made me fall in love with him. Just little things how we'd drive in the car and he'd hold my hand and say I'm the best. Just driving around London and how we laid hugging on a bridge overlooking the city. He used to send me videos of the moon with music playing and how he'd hold me. I'm so heartbroken.

I miss him so much. I can't bare being without him. This hurts so much. I know he hates me and hasn't wanted to be with me for a while. I was just a convenience to him.

I'm so hurt. Please help.

[bunnyhabit]

are you just ranting or do you have a question? just learn from this lesson muslim guys will mess around with non muslim chicks but never consider a long term relationship with them for religious and family issues. BTW i am muslim so not shading them just being honest

if you want him back tell him you understand your relationship with him must remain causal not be broadcasted

[Ella]

Sorry about your experience with the Iranian man. We have all gone through a breakup at one point in our lives, so I know exactly how you are feeling.

However, I'll advice you completely get him off you mind, and move on with your life. Everyday is a new opportunity to meet better people.

[Sammy]

Calling your ex boyfriend is not the best advice. Asking for forgiveness to go back is even worse. What can you do?

First you have to understand that love is nothing but a state of mind, it's how you feel about the other person. When you change that feeling, there is no love. Do you understand?

Let me explain it to you for a minute,

Just think about it, before you met your ex boyfriend, you didn't feel anything about him. Even if I described him to you it wouldn't make you feel the way you do now. Do you know why?

Because when you are in relationship with someone you build emotional responses, which are conditioned, in your neurology. The more you stay together (romantic way) the more you hardwire those neuron pathways in your brain and that means you build more emotion (love)

So when you breakup with ex boyfriend there is a strong built up emotional attachment that makes you feel they way you do now. If there is no way of getting back together then there is a big problem in a way you process your thoughts. This is the reason you can't do your work properly. You become self-couscous about your looks because of emotional imbalance. This affects how you do activities and your over all behaviors.

The only way to get over this is to change the way you handle these emotions. You have to change how you feel about your ex boyfriend.

Let me explain...

Take any book you can find around, hold it while looking at the front cover then turn it around and then look at it from the back, then from the sides. You will find that, its appearance look different depending on which side you are looking at. The book is the same but the way you look at it, changes.

Now, I'm not trying to compare your ex boyfriend with the book. The point I want to make here is this, when you change the way you feel about your ex boyfriend, break up will not affects you.

How can you do that?

The good news is there is a technology to help you get over your ex boyfriend quickly. This technology will get you over him completely, you will be happier than you can imagine.