EX-boyfriend texting out of the blue. and Idk know who he is anymore.

[nomadicfox]

Rant...

Ex-bf insults me by calling me dumb for calling him out. He breaks up with me while I am on vacation, then succumbs me by convincing me to be his sex partner. When I refused, he calls me a conservative prude. It intrigues that when when we first started dating, he compliments how resilient I was and found it attractive.

I ended up seeing him because he asked me to. We had fun, like old times. He told me to hold on to his arm, sat close to me, played with my hair. kiss... All the things you shouldn't do when broken up, but I was so led on to believe. I just wanted to believe so much that he still loves me, that he wants things to change.

Rather than owning up to his flirtatious actions..He blames me for kissing him.. and told me he didn't love me anymore...and I was fed up. He didn't respond to my block texts, and called me selfish for not seeing things from his perspective and what's he's going through. I feel like whenever it's convenient, he simple won't validate what I'm going through...Gives me a hard time, leaves me on edge..

It always intrigues me how different he was when we first started talking. How people change. I don't even know him anymore.

He texted me a few days ago to ask me how were things as if nothing happened. I don't even want to talk to him...disregarded, disrespected..When he feels either of those, he flips his shit, and threatens to dump me. I always constantly feel blamed, and he never takes responsibility for his actions. I am always the one that has to apologize.

On the same time I just want to forget and just make love to him. Remember all the times he was been kind..like when he use to tuck me in his blankets, when he surprised with a plushy on top of my car, the way he was present on my graduation..I remember when he was everything that he isn't now.

I just don't know him anymore and it makes me sad. I know I can't trust him because if he is "really" a friend he claims to be, he wouldn't risk my heart by convincing me to be a sex partner. He would spare me the humiliation of ever allowing me to see him completely walk away, with another girl. Does he ever consider how emotionally damaging that is? He strings me on, then leaves. If he was a friend, he wouldn't want to do anything to hurt his friend...

I really did love him...I miss him a lot.. I just want to text him. But I know he doesn't have my best interest since he doesn't know how to care for me. Just trample my heart over and over with no hesitation. I remember when you use to be kind.

[bunnyhabit]

if you are a glutton for punishment or just want a abusive sex partner text him accordingly. otherwise set the record straight with him why you don't want to be bothered by him based on his past abusive treatment of you.

[nomadicfox]

if you are a glutton for punishment or just want a abusive sex partner text him accordingly. otherwise set the record straight with him why you don't want to be bothered by him based on his past abusive treatment of you.

Yeah, I can't put up with it. He says I can't handle the person he is, but honestly, I think his temper and unreasonableness has blinded him from seeing who he really is. I think people should practice mindfulness, rather than stressing their partner out.

[Malvin]

If your ex boyfriend chose text-messaging as a means of getting back in touch with you, he's probably a little timid about approaching you in person. That said, sending a text could be his way of finding out whether or not you're still mad at him, especially if the relationship ended in a heated way.

Your ex boyfriend also wants something important here: information. He wants to know where you are and what you're doing. Ideally, he'd like to find out that you haven't moved on (i.e. still hung up on him), and that you're not dating someone else. This puts him in prime position to get you back, should he decide he wants to reverse your breakup.

For this reason, it's always important not to reveal too much. Give your ex everything he wants, and you might not hear back from him for a long while. But make your ex feel as if you might be moving on without him, and suddenly he might start paying a lot more attention to you. Making your ex boyfriend jealous to get him back - by keeping yourself a mystery - is a great way of putting yourself right back in his head again.

In the end, there are many reasons why an ex boyfriend would send you a text message. Almost all of them are good, if you're trying to get him back. Yet before you make any moves you might regret, make sure you know exactly what to do and when to do it. Walking the path to reconciliation is fairly tricky, and the more you can educate yourself the greater your chances for a successful reunion.

[nomadicfox]

I don't think he is trying to get me back. He is the one that dumped me, told me that he didn't love me anymore, and suggested to be sex partners instead. I just wants to string me along while he waits for someone better. Even though he said he was going to give himself a year to experience singlehood...

I don't know if I can perceive him messaging me as a good thing.. He changed 180 on me and like I said, Idk who he is anymore. It's tragic.

[bunnyhabit]

I don't think he is trying to get me back. He is the one that dumped me, told me that he didn't love me anymore, and suggested to be sex partners instead. I just wants to string me along while he waits for someone better. Even though he said he was going to give himself a year to experience singlehood...

I don't know if I can perceive him messaging me as a good thing.. He changed 180 on me and like I said, Idk who he is anymore. It's tragic.

I believe that you are totally correct at his reasons for contacting you. this dude will only lead you to more pain and suffering. find a good guy to enjoy life.

[Whyzee]

Does he ever consider how emotionally damaging that is? He strings me on, then leaves. If he was a friend, he wouldn't want to do anything to hurt his friend...

This alone is enough why he is NOT WORTH a single ounce of your affection. An ideal boyfriend must at least not allow you to be tormented with such thoughts and must be MINDFUL not to hurt you and feel your feelings secure and valuable.

Move on
I am very optimistic there are much more people and/or boyfriends that will reciprocate and value your LOVE. Best wishes!