I don't know how to feel

[Marnee]

Hey guys. Im new to this forum and wanted to make sense with some things and maybe have a clearer picture of what's going on in my current situation. Me and my boyfriend were together for over 2 years now and he decided to say he didn't want to be with me anymore out of the blue. A few hours prior he was telling me that he loves me and that he misses me... then out of nowhere he says he doesn't want to be with me anymore because i treated him like s**t during the first year of the relationship. I felt that I didn't treat him that way, but I do admit i would get upset when he would ditch plans or when he didnt pick up phone calls. I did try to break it off with him a few times, telling him maybe its not a good idea because i dont want to come in between two friends and that he knew him longer than he known me. After all this, he still wanted to be with me and take a chance. We had our ups and downs, we would argue then let it go. With me, i would always want to talk about it so it wouldnt arise later in the future but he never wants to talk about it and would get upset so i would just leave it alone. One of our breakups he told me that he didnt love me anymore and that he hated me. didnt want anything to do with me anymore. I asked him why... and he just said he didnt want to. We got into this big argument and ended. I took it hard and didnt contact him for 3 days.... then out of the blue he messages me and told me that hes sorry for what he did and why did he treat the most important person in his life the way he did...and this is all because he saw a rough draft of a christmas card he written me. and he told me that he still loves me. so we got back together. 4 months passes and now he said he doesnt want to be with me anymore.... saying that he's bored and he's tired and also because i treated him badly... even though he would bark back saying my breath stinks and im a dumbass and to f**k off.... i dont understand why he's outwieghing the bad than the good. he also said we never done anything the past 2 years we've been together. we went to tons of museums becuase thats what he likes and also to an aquarium and many other places. but then i told him when i wanted him to go to japan with me and get his passport done he didnt. then there was new york and we both booked our tickets then he couldnt go because he couldnt get the days off. after that was lake tahoe but he said he didnt want to spend money on that and rather go to las vegas, so i booked everything and he told me he didnt want to go anymore even after being so excited about it. i dont know if he's going to come back to me even though i hope he does... i just dont understand why he would just change like that. Oh and fyi, i am his first girlfriend and he did lose his V to me also and he's 26.... please any advice to move on or let me know if he may come back...any advice or insight would help. thanks guys!

[Rachael]

I think he'll come back, however, you must give him space if you want that to happen. By giving him space I imply stopping all communication with him and avoid pleading and begging. When you don't contact him, he'll begin to miss you and eventually want you back.

[Clay]

Being uncertain as to whether or not you have completely lost the love of your life forever is one of the most difficult positions to be in, because you wait, and wait, and wait, and really just don't know if your ex boyfriend will come back to you.

But, although there may seem to be no definite answers from your ex boyfriend, you can figure out if they will return using these 5 signs:

Look At The Breakup Discussion - What are the last things that your ex said to you? If your ex said something like "We're done, I am moving on, it's time you do too!", then it's clear they don't intend on coming back. BUT, if your ex said something like "I need some space.

You don't change! This isn't working out!", then your ex may come back because they suggest that they would if you change or things become different.

Look At The Distance Factor - Your ex may be ignoring you, and may have cut off all contact; but that may only be because they asked for space; thus he may come back.

But if you notice your ex reacting when you contact them, by telling you to leave them alone, blocking you, and turning their phone off; on the other hand; then they are over you and want you to move on.

Look At Why You Broke Up - If the cause of the breakup was something serious like cheating, then it can be almost impossible to recover from that, and your boyfriend may not come back, even if he was the one who cheated.

The causes of a breakup almost always tell you whether or not your partner will come back, ESPECIALLY if your ex boyfriend forgave you for those same things in the past.

Look At The Communication - Does your ex still keep communication open, by keeping the same phone number, allowing you to email them (not blocking you), and sometimes responding to you? If so, then your ex is open to reconciling with you.

Or has your ex tried to change everything so that you can't contact them? If so, then your ex is trying to get rid of you and wants to move on.

Look At Their Current Life - Has your ex moved on or dated anyone since? Has your ex been able to commit or be with anyone consistently since the breakup? If your ex boyfriend has not moved on, or has not really tried getting serious with anyone else since the breakup, it's clear they are not over you still.

But if your ex is dating someone and he tries to find a new girl all the time, he is over you and isn't interested in getting you back.