It's been 3 weeks, still feeling so hurt and heart broken

[Lorlorfaraj]

I broke up with a guy I was seeing on and off. He was amazing at the start and asked me to move in quickly after 2 weeks but I said no and said I like the way things are at the moment and that I'm not ready for a relationship. After a few weeks thibgs were okay and then I was late to meet him on my birthday. He was a totally different person, really mean and then broke up with me by text after I left when we had an argument..

I was so devastated and spent my whole birthday crying. I tried to speak to him and he said his life had changed and he had to work a lot. We only saw each other once a week, so I said why cant we just do what we were doing, just hanging out once a week. He agreed but said I had to come to his house.

I did this for about 3 months, travelling an hour to his house just to watch a movie and have sex basically. I started to grow feelings for him, like deep feelings. I noticed he would stop behavibg how he used to. Never call me beautiful, never text me, never ask about my dance progress as I'm a dancer.

We went to his friend's party and he completely ignored me. After when we went home, we had rough sex and he said it's cuz he hates me. Then told me he likes to challenge me by telling me he has other girls.

I met a friend who told me about him from the party as he was a bit of mystery to me. He is from Iran, she told me he is 100% cheating and they're all liars. I was so paranoid i looked through his phone and he cauvht me and said he never wants to see me again. I was so devastated again like on my birthday and embarressingly begged him to stay with me. I was distraught. He agreed and then was super nice. He said he would rent a house for me to run a business from. He bought me shoes and said he would take me out for Christmas. Because all I wanted was for him to have a day off work with me.

My friend came from China to visit me for two weeks so I couldn't visit him. He rang me o. The firat day she was here and I missed the call. He was so angry and didnt talk to me for two days. When I did talk to him he shouted at me saying he cant accept that of me. I was so upset again.

The next day he told me more reasons why he cant be with me. He said his culture wouldn't accept me. We're not together. Maybe it's my age, because im 29 and he's 26. But when i met him he told me he was 27 and i was 28,but he checked his documents and it turns out he's 26....

He then totally ignored me. I got so drunk a few days later and went to his house. I was a mess, crying. I got nothing out of him. No proper explanation, he said everything is the same as before but he clearly didn't care about me. Finally i got so upset I threw his house keys in the bin and left and blocked him on everything on my phone. I havent spoken to him now for 3 weeks and ive noticed he's being adding young blondes on instagram that look about 20 in his area.

A girl told me that knows him that he never wanted me, i was obsessed and need to get help. This is what hurt me the most. Because he would call me and ask me to come, be nice, call me every night, make promises like he would do things for me but nothing ever came true. He would say his life would change soon so that he could spend more time with me. I clung on to this with hope.

Now I'm left feeling embarrassed like did he ever want me? I wanted him and cared about him so much amd apent so much energy on him.

Am I wrong in thinking I was obsessed and he never wanted me? Or does it seem like he lead me on? I'm so upset and feel really hurt and rejected.

[bunnyhabit]

are you and him muslim? muslim people are expected to be romantic within their religion. they will advantage hot non muslim chicks for sexual satisfaction only. this seems a toxic relationship built on sex only. communication is the key to any successful relationship. vent your feelings expressed here to him. his responses should answer the questions you have posed clearly. it surely appears he has no meaningful feelings for you beyond coitus based on the information you have written. I am confident that you will find someone for a mutually loving relationship rather than the one way love you have for this terrible abusive guy. your assessment of being obsessed with a unfeeling person seems correct.

[Brett]

The reasons behind wanting to make your ex boyfriend miss you are plenty. Likely it's because you want him to feel that same ache in his heart that you feel in yours. It's hard to get through a day without wishing he'd call, isn't it? As the days pass and you don't hear a word, you're more and more tempted to call. Most women in this situation give in and do make that call. Then they're greeted with the uncomfortable voice of their boyfriend on the other end and he doesn't quite know what to say. During that call it will become painfully obvious that he doesn't miss you and that's bound to upset you. It's a vicious cycle that you need to get out of as soon as possible.

The easiest and most effective way to make your ex boyfriend miss you is to stop talking to him. It's really no more complicated than that. It's up to you to do it though and that means overcoming all that temptation you feel to reach out to him. If you're like most women you fear that unplugging all communication to your ex will make him jump into someone else's arms. That's not likely at all. What typically happens is a man in this position will quickly start to miss his ex and feel a hole in his life that she can only fill. In this case, silence really is the golden ticket to getting him to think about you again.

You're probably panicking just thinking about not talking to him. If you are you really need to approach this on a day-to-day basis. Make a plan each morning for what you'll do that day. Fill up your time. No more lounging around the house wishing he'd call. You're going to live again and you're going to do it well.

As the days pass, you're getting closer to your goal of him missing you. Stay strong, focused and away from him. If you can do those three things, the man is going to start missing you like crazy.