Life is unfair

[Jabo123]

NTo start this is something really unlike me to do but I find as a male im not the one to ask for advice off my family and friends in that matter.

Where do I begin? I’m 18 now but this all began when I was 17 with the girl being 16 when I first started dating her Well I started dating this girl in the summer of 2017 who I had been introduced to by a friend of mine. I also wanted to mention that about a week or two into us ‘taking’ my mum sadly passed away from cancer which was an awful time for me and my family but I wasn’t to keen on telling her what had happened just yet as I didn’t know where we were going, but I knew that she lost her dad to cancer when she was a young girl. So through time I told her and we connected through that and I dated her through summer and we broke up a long that time due to someone telling her a false rumour that I had cheated on her. Anyway I set my heart on winning her back as she is a very gorgeous girl and very popular. Eventually through all my triying and giving her my absolute everything we finally got back together. Also forgot to mention that this girl had quite a status for being a bit of a slag, however we were still both Virgins when we met and later on took eachothers virginity which was quite a special thing at our young age. I began to mix well with her family and everything was great despite all this there was a number of suspions I had on her and had to forgive on her as I’d found her being a bit too flirty with other boys. I was really deeply in love with her and she told me she loved me and everything was great. Around 7-8 months in after some rocky times she broke up with me out of the blue and then got back with me the same night, she said she broke up with me cause lishe couldn’t be with because we’d both lost our parents it was bringing her down which seemed really out the blue as she seemed if anything happy she had someone like me and so the same night she realises she made a mistake but in my mind if she was going to break up with me like that randomly I wanted her to prove that she knew she was thinking straight and so she out of nowhere writes me this love letter and at this point I hadn’t seen her for a week or two so we arranged to see eachother again as this proved to me she really did love me and so the same night at her house I asked her out again and we were all happy, to find that same night as I was leaving going through her snapchat she had been infact sending ‘pictures’ to other boys. This completely broke my heart, confidence and self esteem, I did also say some nasty things out of pure anger after everything she done this to me. But I still loved her and you do stupid things when your in love so stupidly within a week I had forgive her as I loved her so much. But I had noticed she wasn’t trying really and she was acting all strange and didn’t want to meet me when asked even though if she did love me she would be trying. Eventually I got to meet her to find that she was basically telling me she didn’t want to be with me after everything and through snatching her phone I had found she was texting her ex this whole time. She without putting it into words ended it with me. This hurt me so so so much and made feel actually quite depressed. Anyway I understand this is dragging on but so again stupidly I kept trying for her cause I was still in love and missed her despite all this cheating and lying which came apparent as I looked back at things. She had by this point basically changed into this different person and wanted nothing to do with me after everything she had done she blocked me as I was a lil bit psycho at the situation but who could blame me after everything she changes on me like this. This left me completely heartbroken and distraught after all she was like my first love and first real girlfriend and I was her first proper boyfriend and we did all the things partners do. Even with what happned to my mum I couldn’t believe so one could be so cruel as to do all this to me especially after she knows what I went through which is very uncommon at our age.

Fastforwatd to now 7 months later I haven’t spoken to her since she blocked me apart from one time she asked to speak to me and when I asked what she told me it didn’t matter. Anyway she is now in a new relationship with another guy and have been for months. I still love her and it hurts me so much that they are doing the things we did and she is completely fine with things with her life and everyone is happy, apart from me the one who was lied, cheated and decieved. How is this fair I just don’t understand how come she did all this horrible things to me and doesn’t care whatsoever she did them and she’s now happy with enough man while it tears me apart to see them together I just don’t understand? I was once a big part in her life now nothing I used to dream of her begging me back but now I doubt that. I know I wrote a lot but I’m just still so hurt by what she had done after all the money all the things I treated her to and all the time I spent with her and her family . Now this replaced like that? I don’t understand how life has been so cruel in such little time when I’ve done nothing wrong?

[bunnyhabit]

you say "how life has been so cruel in such little time when I’ve done nothing wrong?" but also say , "I did also say some nasty things out of pure anger after everything she done this to me." these are quite opposite commentary. seems she has walked away from you to a new man for some reason. most girls do not jump around for no reason. girls remember the nasty behavior over loving responses. you need to purify your temper to have a mature relationship with a hottie like her that attracts many men toward her. start by apologizing for your nastiness to have any chance of rekindling her respect for you. if successful then you can pursue her again. girls alway go for the biggest best deal for men friends.

[Jabo123]

Yes I understand that however it was only after I found she was cheating on me I said some harsh things which had been building up on the other times I had forgiven her. Although it was not right to say those things I was too shocked that she would cheat on me after everything it was almost like she deserved me to say that to her, additionally throughout our relationship that was probably the worst thing I’d done compared to her countless mistakes.

[Michael]

Bam!

A sucker punch to the gut.

Pow!

A shot straight to the heart.

Then the world goes black.

Holy broken hearts Batman! Your girl is going out with some other guy.

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Being the better man doesn't have schmuck written all over it no matter what the magazines might tell you. It's good to be above it all but you're still going to have to fight if you want to get your girl back from the other guy.

But, what do you do when to get her attention when she seems so wrapped up in this other guy.

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Give her relationship with the new guy time to self-destruct. This is the most likely outcome if you can be patient you can more than likely bring home the prize you seek.

Fix the problems that ended the relationship to the extent that you can and work on being the best person you can be as well.

Batman may be the hero of favorite comics but you have what it takes to be the hero of her heart. Just be there to pick up the pieces when the new guy lets her down.

[Jabo123]

yes my friend part of me would love that as I do still have feelings for her and she made me feel a way I’ve never felt before however as I look back I realise slowly she wasn’t the amazing person I thought she was. She hurt me to the moon and back, but now while I sit here there she is with her new man all happy, why should I pick up the pieces if they break up? She wouldn’t do it for me she doesn’t deserve it. But I constant confusion on my mind is how it is fair she did all those horrible things to me and hurt to beyond explanation especially while getting over the death of my mother who has the world allowed this to happen? It’s not fair she knows what it’s like to lose someone more than anything. I’m not sure I could even bring myself to talk to her im too afraid as she hurt me so much.