i want your help

[Naman jain]

hey its naman from india

i want to convert my relation as it was in starting i m in relation from last 9 months
we both love each other a lot
but from the last 2-3 months there is a problem arising in our relation
that sometimes a very bad type of feel comes in which we both just don't want to listen eachothers voice

then after sometime every thing comes to normal then after some time problmem then solve it is been continue from last 2-3 months
i love her a loe

even I can't live without her h single sec i had too many dreams with her
tp br complete in future plz suggest me ideas to resolve this problem for ever that it will never comes plzz
because i love her a lot n can't live without her

[Mabel]

Every relationship goes through a rough patch once in awhile. It is entirely unavoidable. It is the result of two different people spending a great deal of time together. Eventually, aspects of one's personality will come out that will annoy the other, habits will cause concern, and just simple gestures can turn into a major argument.

When this happens, it does not necessarily mean that the relationship is over. But it does mean that you need to decide to turn your attention to righting what has gone wrong. There are two simple things you can do that will help in solving relationship problems: communicate with your partner and work at making changes.

Communication

The phrase "communication is key" may be somewhat of a cliche at this point, but it is absolutely vital in solving relationship problems. It does not matter how hard you work, what gifts you bring, or what efforts you make if you do not know what is bothering your partner.

Men and women alike can be horrible at this aspect of a relationship, both having a tendency to only hear exactly what they want to hear. Pay attention to the other person's words - not just the gist of what they are saying. Certain wording can give a hint as to deeper problems, and you can often find that what is really needed may not be what has been verbally communicated.

Working on Problems

The other, perhaps harder, part of solving relationship problems is having the willingness to work on those problems. Some want quick fixes - a romantic dinner, a vacation, jewelry - but these are no better than band aids on an open wound. Many times, real, legitimate work is needed.

This is not to say that you should change your personality for your partner, but you do need to be respectful of that person if you wish to remain together. Working on problems can mean anything from starting to help around the house more to attending counseling, but you must do whatever is necessary to address your partner's concerns. If you find yourself unwilling or unable to do this, you should question your commitment to the relationship.

Many problems can be solved simply through better communication and a willingness to work through differences. Making an effort will please most partners, especially if the effort is made relatively early into the problem. While you cannot, and should not, change everything about yourself just to please another person, you should be willing to make sacrifices if you take your relationship seriously. Just make sure that this process is always a two way street, and many problems can be avoided in the long run.

[Barry]

Many couples do sometimes need help with relationship problems. A relationship has never failed until one of you gives up. There are many reasons why one party may not want to salvage a broken relationship. If one of the partners has been unfaithful or involved in a crime, it can be very difficult to get past these sorts of relationship problems. But that's not to say that even in these situations a way back can't be found.

After everything that has happened, you can both solve your relationship problems if you still love each other. Love brought you together in the first place and it can do it again. But it won't be easy. It also takes a will to succeed and persevere. It won't happen overnight so you must have patience and willingness to compromise.

Sort Yourself First.

Before convincing your partner to follow your lead, make sure you know where you're going. Clear up your own problems and admit to any faults you might have that led to the current situation. Often, common relationship problems such as poor communication, unreasonable expectations or trust issues can cause resentment to build up. If the blame falls on you, admit it and do something about it. Until you have sorted yourself out, don't try and sort out your partner.

Look at the problems that brought you to this point from your partner's point of view. Hopefully, you both can sit down and discuss your feelings and hurts. Once you understand how the other feels and view the situation through their eyes, it's easier to mend the hurt and move forward.

Tell Your Partner How You Feel.

When you are trying to save a failed relationship, let your partner know you love and appreciate them. You can do this by focusing on the positive aspects of your relationship. Offer compliments when earned and you will probably get some back. If you make a mistake again, apologize to your partner quickly. It is the person who admits wrong who wins the fight. But bear in mind that doing something wrong can only be forgiven so many times, so be prepared for the repercussions.

Find the time to be with each other, particularly if the lack of quality bonding time is the reason for the problem. Enjoy a common interest or pastime together. This could be a leisure activity, a sport or a household project that was put on hold because of our relationship problems. Being together is one of the best ways to show your partner that they special and that you care about them.