Advice on my ex boyfriend

[Galina Bianco]

Hi my name is Galina. I been in relationship for 5 months and a lot happened during that relationship. So here is my story: So my ex boyfriend keeps coming back to me a lot. So I will tell you the little story of it. So he dated my friend and then he dated me and then he went back to being friends with her when I told even advice that she is not a good friend. So now he messaged me back saying he wants to be friends with me and maybe build a relationship with me if I am not taken. My family doesn't like him because he lied in the past and one of the scenario when he broke up with me and went to the prom with my friend that I talked in the beginning. I am asking you can you give me advice and how can he build trust back and how do I really know that he wants to be with me near future? I feel like since he came back to me 3rd time he wants to spend time with me near future I am not sure. Please help me out and see what I should do to help this friendship/relationship grow fonder near future. Thank you :-)

[Tina]

Do you wonder if your ex secretly wants you back? Do you hope that the answer is 'yes'? People can be funny after a break up. Often the one doing the breaking up will feel some degree of regret. How they show their regret may differ from one person to the next, however you need to be wary not to confuse 'regret' with your own wishful thinking.

You might have been sad and depressed all week. Your ex has either made things worse by calling and phone texting you during this time OR you haven't heard a peek from them. Neither of these mean they want you back OR they don't want you back. (This can get confusing). If they ever cared about you at all, they will either think calling to check on you will make you feel better OR giving you space will. Do NOT answer their calls and do NOT call them. Make them wonder and make them miss you.

Once there is sufficient distance from the break up, you've allowed them enough time to realize if they miss you and want you back. During this time, you'll also be able to think clearly about what you want. Chances are good they will still have feelings for you, simply because it's hard to switch your feelings off like that and the longer duration of the relationship, the harder it will be to get used to being without you. We are creatures of habit and it's VERY likely if you've followed the no contact rule after being together for so long, they will be dying to hear from you.

Here's how to find out your ex still wants you:

1. They tell you they miss you

2. They still call to simply talk

3. They want to discuss the break-up

4. They sound happy to hear from you

These might seem obvious however if you make a wrong move here, it might push them further away. The thing is when they do these things they might not even think they want you back. They just don't want to feel guilty. It is a subconscious thing but the things they do after a break-up could be a way of testing you. The best thing to do is to remain your distance and stay calm. Don't let your guard down and start begging for them to give you another chance. This is NOT what they want.