Hi this is my first post here and wouldn't mind some opinions/help…
I’m in my early 30’s and so is my partner, we have 3 children together and have been together since we were teenagers. 14yrs total atm.
in January I’d discovered an email login on my girlfriend’s computer. Never seen this email address before so I logged in and discovered it was a fake email address she’d made up (using a profile pic of someone we know not herself) and it had one email to a guy stating she’d lost his number and been thinking about him a lot. Anyway they swapped numbers again and thats the end of the emails. I confronted her about this and she eventually admitted she’d met him on Omegle chat and got talking and gave him her number. Anyone who knows Omegle knows theres only one reason men are trolling around on there… Anyway she claimed it was never anything like a relationship or sexual and claims they never even exchanged photos (she was still using a fake name etc). I also found out they’d been speaking/txting for nearly 3 years!! Anyway this absolutely broke me and I never thought I could ever recover from this. Eventually I’d managed to forgive her and we continued our relationship. Although tbh nearly 9 month later now and I still think about it a lot and it still really hurts.
now onto this week… She left her iwatch on the side table whilst she went to bed and it flashed up and caught my attention. Knowing I shouldnt have, I looked at her messages on it. I haven’t really been paranoid in a while considering what happened so bot sure why I even did this. But anyway, I found a message that read:
Hello.
Hey.
Good now delete the chat.
obviously I was incredibly hurt and again she denied anything about this and claimed it wasn’t even a message she received “obvs she deleted it off her phone”. She eventually confessed that it was a guy that messaged her on tiktok as they were both watching a Live and he messaged her for whatever reason and added her. She replied that she couldnt accept him as she had a boyfriend but gave her number. Then this message happened…. Then never spoke again.
I honestly dont know what to think or how to even get over this again. She seems to clearly have a problem and I just dont know what to do. I want to stay for the kids but I know thats never good. Im just really a mess right now.
I’m in my early 30’s and so is my partner, we have 3 children together and have been together since we were teenagers. 14yrs total atm.
in January I’d discovered an email login on my girlfriend’s computer. Never seen this email address before so I logged in and discovered it was a fake email address she’d made up (using a profile pic of someone we know not herself) and it had one email to a guy stating she’d lost his number and been thinking about him a lot. Anyway they swapped numbers again and thats the end of the emails. I confronted her about this and she eventually admitted she’d met him on Omegle chat and got talking and gave him her number. Anyone who knows Omegle knows theres only one reason men are trolling around on there… Anyway she claimed it was never anything like a relationship or sexual and claims they never even exchanged photos (she was still using a fake name etc). I also found out they’d been speaking/txting for nearly 3 years!! Anyway this absolutely broke me and I never thought I could ever recover from this. Eventually I’d managed to forgive her and we continued our relationship. Although tbh nearly 9 month later now and I still think about it a lot and it still really hurts.
now onto this week… She left her iwatch on the side table whilst she went to bed and it flashed up and caught my attention. Knowing I shouldnt have, I looked at her messages on it. I haven’t really been paranoid in a while considering what happened so bot sure why I even did this. But anyway, I found a message that read:
Hello.
Hey.
Good now delete the chat.
obviously I was incredibly hurt and again she denied anything about this and claimed it wasn’t even a message she received “obvs she deleted it off her phone”. She eventually confessed that it was a guy that messaged her on tiktok as they were both watching a Live and he messaged her for whatever reason and added her. She replied that she couldnt accept him as she had a boyfriend but gave her number. Then this message happened…. Then never spoke again.
I honestly dont know what to think or how to even get over this again. She seems to clearly have a problem and I just dont know what to do. I want to stay for the kids but I know thats never good. Im just really a mess right now.
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