Should I give up on her or just ask her directly?

[magic2017]

So i been chatting with this girl i know for maybe 4 months now. We are about 6 hrs driving away and we did meet a couple of times when she visited. We known each other as friends for a while but she moved back to her country and now she is back here again. When she started her new work she's super busy - due to her company's homebase in her country, she frequently has meetings at night and it hinders a lot of communication. We were planning to meet one weekend but then her boss asked her to work and that was ruined. Her parents recently coming to visit so she has even less time to meet. I dont know if she thinks i am interested in her or not but I feel it might be a lost cause due to her schedule and we are long distance. Should i even ask her outright if she wants to get in a relationship?
thanks!

[Bella]

You really need patience if you want things to work with this girl you love. Trying to express your feelings to her immediately will ruin things. Be patient with her and she will eventually have time to meet you one day. However, in the mean time before meeting her, ensure you communicate with her over the phone whenever she's less busy.

[Malvin]

Communication: Key to a Strong Relationship When Dating Women Across State Boundaries

If you've found someone in another state that you want to date, it's important that you measure the pros and cons before starting the relationship. Every relationship has its struggles, and when you're dating women in another state, you have all the usual problems coupled with new ones.

However, by talking in some form every day, you can build a strong relationship. It sounds cliché, but sometimes, clichés are true. You need to talk. You need to share your lives with one another so that you can create a relationship. The conversation doesn't always have to be important, but it does always have to happen.

When you're dating women, the communication will create a bond. If you can schedule a conversation every day, or even two conversations, that will greatly help your relationship. And it should be over the phone as much as possible. IM is fine every once in awhile, but over the phone, you can hear the other person's voice, and they know you're not doing a million other things while talking to you.

When you talk, you get to know one another. You learn:

*One another's communication styles
*One another's likes and dislikes
*About other people in your lives
*How to be intimate with one another

Overcoming Long-Distance Relationship Boundaries

They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and that can be true, but it's also true that absence makes the heart forget. And when you're apart, it's easy to let other distractions get in the way. However, that doesn't mean it's impossible. When you're dating women long-distance, there are several ways that you can make the relationship much more successful.

Some things you can do to overcome long-distance relationship boundaries when you're dating women, other than regular communication, include:

*Discuss your relationship goals
*Don't go on out with other women, even if they're just friends
*Make the distance seem shorter by using webcam, so you can see one another
*Be understanding

Making Dating Women In Another State Feasible

Okay, so communication is the glue that holds it all together, but there are right and wrong ways to communicate. Sounds silly, but if you call one another at random times, you'll be playing tag for years. So schedule a time to talk instead. Talk to the woman you're dating and ask when the best time to call is. You might need to try a few things before you find something that works. But eventually, you should have a time of day that you're both available, even if it means one of you has to go to bed or wake up earlier. When you're dating women in another state, especially across time zones, it can be necessary.

Another thing you can do to make dating women long-distance easier is to visit one another. Schedule a weekend visit, or if she's visiting, clear out your whole weekend for the time she's there. The relationship will have a hard time surviving, but that doesn't mean that it can't.

Dating women long-distance is pretty horrible. The relationship will create lots of uncertainties and it is hard to trust someone you never see. By being open and honest and talking frequently, you can overcome those difficulties.

[Becky]

Communication is widely viewed as one of the essentials of a successful relationship, and there is no reason why this should be neglected.

One pitfall of the long distance dater, especially the one who first meets the potential date with the separation already in place, is the tendency to think of the long distance partner as somehow less important than the date down the street. This is expressed in the world of internet dating by the use of "online" relationships as opposed to "real life" relationships. Rest assured that considering your dating relationship as a little less than real life will ensure that it will not flourish, nor will it last long.

We have shrunk the world with our technology. No longer need we look around our own neighborhoods for dating partners. The world has become our own private singles bar, but the cost we pay for this is the acceptance that long distance dating is going to occur, and it is going to cause a certain amount of frustration. While we are able to communicate, and this is good, it is not that comforting to lean our heads upon a computer monitor, or give a cell phone an affectionate hug. Although kissing a web cam lens might be as good a clue to feelings as a kiss on the doorstep after a date, it still is going to fall short of the real thing.

The secret to successful long distance dating is communication, and the thrust of a lot of that communication should be how to shorten that distance, all the way from many miles to a few inches.

[magic2017]

thanks for all the tips. Actually we did talk on the phone before she got really busy. We havent talked on the phone for a while now and we only text, even that sometime its hit or miss since we are both busy at work and in the evening she's working. I am not sure if she is interested though? I dropped some hints like we should schedule sometime to meet again and she doesnt respond (maybe busy?). but she sometime do respond if i send her something else. With her parents here it will be impossible since shes spending time with them and it would be awkward if i do anything with them. I did offer to treat them if they come to DC but that is TBD.

[Eotekniti]

Dont give up!

[Rose Mosse]

The bottomline: She is NOT interested and she's brushing you off. You should move on. My fiance and I live and work very busy lives even while we were dating and we still found time after midnight to meet mid-week. She's 6 hours away which leads me to question how you both know each other in the first place/how did you meet. It sounds like an online relationship that she is not interested in prioritizing.