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  • Confused, hurting and waiting..LDR

    Hi everyone I am new here. I would like to get some advice.
    I have this Long distance relationship for almost 8 months.
    He came onece a month in france and he is in UK.
    A week ago
    I was really being so grumpy becAuse of the situation that he is being so busy
    At work which i was trying to understand.
    Then i felt really sad and alone not just because of that but because also a
    Family problem. So saturday night i didnt talk to him and slept coz i guess that would
    Be the best thing to do in my side coz i was working the whole day, stress, and tired.
    Sunday morning till afternoon he had a rotary event.so we only had a bit
    Of time to talk when he got home coz he will go to the gym right after. So after the videocall
    With him which i said I love you at almost the end of the call probably he didnt hear.
    So i sent him a messaage of I said i love you!!!!
    And he said he didnt hear so i replied ok.

    So monday morning May 7 i feel bad coz i know i might hurt him and also not being
    Understanding of him being so busy.
    I sent him messages the normal day. Even apologize. I said sorry.
    But during that day he became cold. He only sent me a message saying that he just need a bit
    Of time through his ends and i asked him if its about work or something else
    And he said a few things really.. so i said ok. I let him.. i was waiting
    Nights pass no message from him. I said goodnight coz i was tired and sleepy. I only
    Receive a message of just a stranger message of saying a goodnight too.
    So the next day tuesday. No messages at all. I was waiting.. i was hurting.. i dont
    Know what to do. So i almost midnight i decided to call him which is normally he
    Make the first call..
    But he dropped the call. And without explaining why.
    So i sent him messages imeessage, email, facebook and kik.
    Thats the communication we've got. I have no choice. I need an answer why he is doing that.
    Yeaterday May 9. He just said me he need time to work in terms of us, work and etc.
    so i said ok i will give him the time.
    What i am thinking right now . I dont know if i have done wrong which makes him
    Not to talk to me, message.
    Is it normal from a guy to do that?
    I admiitted what was weomg with me and even explained but his in side i don't get it. Right
    Now i dont know what to do. Im just really crying and hurting.
    I love him and i dont know if its in that simple thing he changed already then what should i do?
    I hope i can get any response from this forum.
    First time to be here so . Thanks in advance..

  • #2
    If he isn't giving you answers to why he is acting cold towards you, I'll suggest you give him space. Doing otherwise by calling and pleading will simply make you unattractive.

    Give him the space he needs now, and he might eventually contact you when he has decided to be with you.

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    • #3
      I think he feels you aren't giving him much attention, despite the fact that he has traveled to be close to you.

      However, don't call and text him indiscriminately, but give him the space he wants. Trying to pester him will make you lose him for good.

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      • #4
        Hello he already talked to me and explained why he was acting cold towards me.
        He explained it was because of his current situation in the business/ work which he was thinking that it would be quite diccifult for him to give his time than usual probably just the weekend.
        He even already thinking that even like the work will be a little bit calm for the coming months he told me that for me being with him there would might take a while whih is true.
        He doesnt want to end the relationship but he was just thinking in advance which is i think all negative.
        He even asked me if what if we get to the point of breaking up would i still be talking to him? I said it will be difficult to move on if i still be talking to him. I love him and he know that.
        At this time i am scared that it somehow will happen once he give up coz he doesnt know how to handle.
        I know myself i can handle this. The only problem was he didnt tell me exactly what was wrong.

        Right now we are still together will try hard to figure out what is best for each other.

        Sadly this May 18 he i think he wouldnt be able to see me in Paris which we already planned even the week after for my birthday the reason is due to his work.

        Thanks guys

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        • #5
          Long-distance relationships are always hard to bear. If you love then fight for your love.

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          • #6
            I love him. I will fight but the sad and truth reality is quite a barrier. It regards to the legality and process of being close together.

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