Long distance friend visited and now I'm confused

[obliviatex]

Hello! I have a friend who lives, literally, on the other side of the world. He visits my area for a month about once a year. We decided to spend a weekend together while he was here so that I could show him around an area he had previously never been. Previously, we had talked about potentially hooking up and going on a date, but (at least from my perspective) it was more of a casual thing. He is the one who brought up the idea of going on a date, but his reasoning was so that we could actually enjoy some time with the opposite sex given both of our frustrations with dating/relationships. So, he came up for the weekend and obviously we had sex several times. But the part that I am confused about is just how affectionate he was the whole weekend. He would cuddle me really closely/tightly in bed, would rub my legs/back/head while we were hanging out watching TV, and in the mornings would reach out and give me long hugs. Admittedly, this was our first time spending a full weekend together and we connected much more than I thought we would. I mean, I had always known we thought similarly about most things given all the conversations we've had over the last couple years, but being in person and seeing how we acted/talked/thought the same was a bit unexpected. He noted this connection too. I am thinking he maybe could feelings, as did I, but I'm not sure how he is feeling. We didn't talk about it and now he has to go back to his home country. It's like this giant uncertain state was just left like this. I am really caught off guard because I was not expecting to catch feelings and I am not sure how to proceed. Thoughts on what might be going on in his head and where to go from here? Thanks xx

[Brett]

If you're interested in the guy that you're currently dating and you think that he's the one, then you might also be interested in knowing if he shares these exact same feelings. So, does this guy have any special feelings for you?

If he's always around you...
One of the most obvious signs that he's also feeling something for you is when he likes spending time with you. In fact, whenever he's free, this guy would always be found in the same spot that you and your friends are in. Gone are those days when he would prefer to go out with his male buddies. Right now, his main concern is to get to know you more!

His gaze is all over you.
There's no stopping him because he just can't get enough of your enigmatic looks. You'll catch him looking at you many times. Your gut feel should be able to tell you if his gaze means something or he's just being appreciative of your beauty.

He will want to be alone with you.
This guy would want to pair up with you especially when you're in a group. He will do all he can so that you get paired with him and none else! He'll also make sure that you'll dance with him all night long.

He's always out to impress you.
Whether by his antics or by his looks, this guy will always try to make an indelible impression on you. He will even use his talents to show you of his uniqueness.

He doesn't bother to hide his jealousy.
It's either this or he really can't hold his concern over the other guys that are attempting to converse with you. Observe how he behaves the moment he sees other men trying to converse with you. Try placing your hand on the shoulder of one of these guys and if your man suddenly fumes mad, then it could only mean that he already has special feelings for you.

In his own little ways, this guy will let you know.
He'll give you some hints regarding his real feelings. He will ceaselessly compliment your every good quality, he'll also give you special presents such as flowers and chocolates.

He'll act uneasily around you.
This is because he's so nervous around you. He might try to crack a joke or start a conversation but he would appear to be uneasy about the whole idea of talking with you. You might even hear him stammer!

[Ella]

You have a gut feeling that the guy you have been attracted to for months has secret feelings for you too, but you can't be sure! Here are some ways in which to find out if he is harboring feelings of love for you. These tips will help you to spot the obvious in no time at all!

Smile at him and see if he gets nervous
You could try to make him respond to you and gauge if the response was one that speaks of his love or not. Smile at him and check if he gets flustered or nervous or whether he smiles warmly back at you! Either way it proves that he is affected by you and you mean something more than just an acquaintance.

He will not be unaffected by your presence
Every time you meet, you find that he acts in an uncharacteristic manner. This shows you that your presence affects him. He will either talk too much or clam up, walk with a confident swagger or try to become invisible, ignore you pointedly or find every excuse in the book to come up and talk to you. These signs show that he has feelings for you.

He will try to find out facts about you from your close friends
He will give himself away by his curiosity. If he has hidden feelings for you, he will want to know more about you. He will not be satisfied with just seeing you from afar. He will try to find out personal details and facts from your closest friends and sooner or later will try to get in touch with you.

He will not be able to ignore you
Even if he is pretending not to be affected by your presence, he will not be able to ignore you for long. Give him a sweet smile and he will melt before your very eyes. He will be unable to resist your company or any other encouraging gesture on your part. He will find himself slowly but surely gravitating in your direction.

He will always compliment you
The fact that he is always complimenting you and saying nice things about you shows that he has feelings for you. No man who is disinterested will bother giving you compliments and praising you consistently. Wait and see if he takes the trouble to make you feel good every time you are in his company. This will prove his interest in you.

He will show his pleasure when you give him attention
If you respond to his attention by giving him yours - he will definitely show how pleased and happy you have made him. Be prepared to receive even more attention from him. He will respond to every little gesture and kind word from you. You will be in no doubt as to his intentions and feelings if you show him that you like him.

He will not be able to resist you
If he has hidden feelings for you, then he will be like putty in your hands. One little word or smile from you will make you irresistible and he will be ready to do anything just to make you happy and satisfied.