How To Handle a Weird Proposal

[Kate]

I have been in a five-year relationship. During these years, he has worked 18 months in other countries. He is working right now in Spain (since November 2016) and I live very far away.

After a break up of 4 months, we came back together in last December, and we shared New Year's vacation together in Madrid.

I have traveled two times since then to visit him, and he has come to visit me too.

He sent me a Whatsapp saying "Would you marry me?" three weeks ago. He asked me twice, and said: "If you want, you can answer me in Madrid." (I was traveling to meet him in a week).

When I arrived in Madrid to spend 3 days for a long weekend, he never asked me again and ignored the subject.

We shared a good time together.... and that's it. We continue texting, calling, etc...

What should I do?

[Mabel]

Great question!

We can see why you didn't answer him... because he didn't propose to you In Person!

To all guys who don't already instinctively know this:

Girls can't take you seriously unless you propose In Person.

If you propose by text...

That's a Weird Proposal.

Usually, Weird Proposals are not even serious.

But I think this one IS serious!

Why? Because these two people are going to a lot of trouble to see each other - and they're seeing each other often.

So what should she do?

First, I'll say what she can do NOW.

Then I'll tell you how to answer a Weird Proposal.

Kate, when you talk to him next, and the conversation gets playful, you can say this:

"Remember when you asked me to marry you? Would you like to know why I didn't answer you?"

Of course, he will respond "yes."

"Because you didn't ask me in person. If you really want to marry me, ask me in person. Then I'll let you know my answer."

Say this in a sweet and playful way. In other words, flirty and fun.

I expect that on your next visit, you will hear a Real Proposal - In Person. So get ready!

And now... as promised: what should you do when you get a Weird Proposal?

It's a great opportunity to show a man who he's dealing with!

First of all, don't take a Weird Proposal too seriously. But answer it well.

Say in a flirty way, "If you want to know my answer, you'll have to ask me in person."

That's how to handle a Weird Proposal.

Weird Proposals are fun. Any proposal is fun. Life is supposed to be fun!

If you are waiting for a proposal from the man you see every day, year after year...

The man who everyone knows is your Significant Other...

I encourage you here, because being official is something very significant.

[Kate]

Thanks for your advice Kate...