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I was in a relationship with my girlfriend for 2 years (LDR). We met each other a few times. Few years ago (2 years) we broke up because of distance and due to some of my issues (I was being very jealous etc). She is 17 years old, I am 19.
In the meantime we both tried to get back since we really love each other (many times), but her parents hate me and distance is still an issue. At some point we were no contact for a year, and even though that time I was permanently gone (I had her blocked everywhere so I could move on), she tried to get a boyfriend but didn't because no one was like me.
Few months later she pmed me on my birthday, she made a lot of effort to talk to me, and we have been talking a lot since then (since January 2018). We really have fun and my feelings for her are the same. After some point we expressed our feelings for each other but she still said how it's really hard for us to get back because of distance and her parents. She currently lives with her parents so they really affect her. She talked to me a lot about it, told me how she really wants this to work but it's impossible for now. She promised me we will get back together in 2 years if there is still love between us (in 2 years is when she will definitely be able to move out and leave her parents / plus be an adult, and that's also when I will be able to permanently move to where she is).
She said if she doesn't fall in love in the meantime, or if I don't fall in love, we will be together. But that kind of hurt me and I am not sure how to perceive it. She told me she won't be looking for somone else, and that she doesn't need anyone, but basically she told me she wants someone next to her, and that she can't wait 2 whole years for us. She said many times how she really loves me and wants to be with me, even cried on phone, but her telling me something like this destroyed me. Like, how can she even think of falling in love with someone else? If she really did love me, why wouldn't she wait 2 years for us and stay as friends in the meantime? She told me she wants to talk to me.
I know her very well and she has done a lot of things for me. Even went as far as rejecting others because of me EVEN THOUGH that time I was permanently gone, and she also used to tell some friends of mine how she misses me and loves me etc.
I really don't know what to do. I feel like staying at this point, but I also feel like leaving. I know her very well, and I don't want to leave her like that, especially after what she has done and after what we have both gone through. We truly love each other.
But her telling me she will be with me if she doesn't fall in love with someone else (or if I don't), and that she wants someone next to her and can't wait 2 years make me want to leave. Any advices please?
In the meantime we both tried to get back since we really love each other (many times), but her parents hate me and distance is still an issue. At some point we were no contact for a year, and even though that time I was permanently gone (I had her blocked everywhere so I could move on), she tried to get a boyfriend but didn't because no one was like me.
Few months later she pmed me on my birthday, she made a lot of effort to talk to me, and we have been talking a lot since then (since January 2018). We really have fun and my feelings for her are the same. After some point we expressed our feelings for each other but she still said how it's really hard for us to get back because of distance and her parents. She currently lives with her parents so they really affect her. She talked to me a lot about it, told me how she really wants this to work but it's impossible for now. She promised me we will get back together in 2 years if there is still love between us (in 2 years is when she will definitely be able to move out and leave her parents / plus be an adult, and that's also when I will be able to permanently move to where she is).
She said if she doesn't fall in love in the meantime, or if I don't fall in love, we will be together. But that kind of hurt me and I am not sure how to perceive it. She told me she won't be looking for somone else, and that she doesn't need anyone, but basically she told me she wants someone next to her, and that she can't wait 2 whole years for us. She said many times how she really loves me and wants to be with me, even cried on phone, but her telling me something like this destroyed me. Like, how can she even think of falling in love with someone else? If she really did love me, why wouldn't she wait 2 years for us and stay as friends in the meantime? She told me she wants to talk to me.
I know her very well and she has done a lot of things for me. Even went as far as rejecting others because of me EVEN THOUGH that time I was permanently gone, and she also used to tell some friends of mine how she misses me and loves me etc.
I really don't know what to do. I feel like staying at this point, but I also feel like leaving. I know her very well, and I don't want to leave her like that, especially after what she has done and after what we have both gone through. We truly love each other.
But her telling me she will be with me if she doesn't fall in love with someone else (or if I don't), and that she wants someone next to her and can't wait 2 years make me want to leave. Any advices please?
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