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I am wondering about your opinion on this topic, please help! I live in US and had a long distance friend. Im a woman, he is a man. He wanted something more from our friendship but I made it clear from the start that there cannot be romantic intentions between us and that he should look for someone else to find romantic relationship.However, I kept in touch casually wishing to be polite and kind to a kind person he was. I kept reminding him from time to time that we can be only friends if he really wants it. I also said a couple of times thatI hope he will find his love. Some time ago he wanted to travel to see me but i stressed that it will be a bad timing to see each other and also saw it as an unfortunate way of encouraging his feelings. I told him all of it for yet another time, very plainly, and also that I am very busy, which was also true. Some time ago, coming back from my work, I found him at my doorstep unannounced and uninvited. He said he had to see me and its a surprise and if he told me, perhaps I would avoid him. I was scared, as if i didnt have enough stress at my work. I didnt let him in and considered ending our acquaintance. I also found this behaviour oppressive and scary. I wonder i would behave differently even if he notified me about his plans. What do you think? Was I rude? Did it happen to you too? Thank you!
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Not letting him in after traveling a long distance just to see you was rude and cruel. I know you made it clear to him that you don't want anything romantic, but letting him in doesn't necessarily mean you'll have sex with him. You should have at least let him in and tell him you won't let him in next time he tries it. -
Like the saying, do unto other what you want to be done to you. If a guy did that to you, will you be happy?Comment
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Quite complex situation. However, let him see you because he is worth it?Comment
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This is somewhat complex relation.Comment
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