help!

[icecold]

okay guys so i met this girl like 2 months ago or so through a online video game and we started chatting, at first it was nothing we just chatted about random things (like games,movies, ordinary things) but then we suddenly started exchanging pictures, like almost every single day. Chatting with her really changed me since i wasn't really into this love thing or whatever, I just never had an interest in that cuz i never truly believed in love. But this girl... she changed me somehow, I fell in love with her and I don't know why and how, I just did, I feel it. I don't really open myself to other people, but I've told her everything I felt about her, and I think she has the same feelings about me judging by her replies, i hope she is not toying with me... meh. Soo once while we were chatting it just occurred to me to ask her if she has a boyfriend, and then she said "yes", like... what?! I asked her why didn't she tell me about that before and she said she doesn't want to talk about it and she gets mad about it every time I ask her about that. Now, that was like 2-3 weeks ago but we still chat like we always do, but every time she tells me she's going out I am thinking that she is meeting with her boyfriend, she kisses him, hugs him and whatever and then she comes back to me, like nothing ever happened. I don't ask her about that but I think she is doing it. How am I supposed to feel about this? I mean I really love her but... we chat about how we are going to meet one day (she lives in another town like 4-5 hours away and doesn't want to meet up now) but SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND... I don't know what to do... like how can she do this? She is a nice and kind and everything good but... idk. Why is she still chatting with me if she has a boyfriend? Why am I still chatting with her when I know she has a boyfriend? I really need some help guys, I hope this topic belongs here I am new on this forum.

[Sammy]

She has made it clear to you that she has a boyfriend, so you shouldn't be with her. She's using you as a side-boyfriend and I know you don't want to be the second choice. I'll advice you stop contacting her at once.

[Camila]

She's cheating on her boyfriend with you, so she obviously isn't a good girl like you think. The fact is that if you end up in a relationship with her, she's definitely going to cheat on you with someone else.

[icecold]

She has made it clear to you that she has a boyfriend, so you shouldn't be with her. She's using you as a side-boyfriend and I know you don't want to be the second choice. I'll advice you stop contacting her at once.

But she is acting like he doesn't exist, or maybe she's lying to me? Noo, I don't think she is lying, she definitely has a boyfriend. Stop contacting her? But even now when she went out (she told me she went on a coffee) I miss her terribly. When I see her sending me love emojis and telling me how we are gonna meet one day and everything I am melting... I really love her, how can I just stop contacting her at once? First of all I would never just stop contacting with a girl, leaving her like that. I will feel like shit afterwards. Second, how can I do that when I love her? How will I heal?! I will become so depressed and I will hate everything and everyone around me, just looking at her picture my blood starts to boil :/

[icecold]

She's cheating on her boyfriend with you, so she obviously isn't a good girl like you think. The fact is that if you end up in a relationship with her, she's definitely going to cheat on you with someone else.

Oh my... it's so hard to think like that about her because I know she isn't like that, or do I... meh, thank you anyway..

[smackie9]

I hope this is a lesson learned....it's cyber love, and it's (sorry to say) not too real. Yes your feelings are real, but the relationship is not. You haven't met this person irl, so you can't possibly know her, her life, how she lives, who's in her life, and how she interacts with others etc. I get it it's pretty complicated how it works, but these things are 20% reality and 80% fantasy. A lot of what you see her as is mostly filled in with your imagination. Why did she do this? She doesn't think it's cheating and is addicted to the attention...it gives her a good ol' hit of dopamine every time you two get together online to chat. You are wasting your time investing in someone you can't even see, touch or hang out with.

This type of thing can be dangerous. The internet is a catfisher's paradise. It's so easy to manipulate lonely guys like you that have never experienced a relationship or that kind of attention from a girl before. You are easy prey. You just don't know who they are. Sure anyone can send photos of a pretty girl and say sweet things a girl would say..it could be some fat old guy doing it for s&^%$ and giggles.