Need help deciding between local and long distance.

[magic2017]

I am seeing one girl right now and she is local. Also there is another girl who i was introduced to (about same time i first met the local girl). This second girl is in another country though but she is willing to relocate and planning to come visit in January. The first girl wants to establish a relationship quickly (even offered to go to my place to cook). The second girl, if she does end up relocating will need to go through school and find a job. She is cuter though and introduced through trustworthy friend.

Any tips? I dont think i can see the second girl in January while still seeing first girl - the first girl even mentioned seeing my parents for xmas...

In terms of comparisons:
First girl - aggressive about establishing relationship - to the point, finish grad school next year.
Second girl - will need to go to school in US for work, cuter, younger, less aggressive.

[bunnyhabit]

I am known proponent for localized relationships based on the belief physical contact is a key ingredient for a successful relationship. You should tell both girls while you are really into them but that you are are not ready to settle down in a monogamous relationship and surely not a live together relationship given short duration of knowing them. This will give you time to date both of them to make a decision. Both have positive and negative traits. How will the second girl obtain usa citizenship? Seems you can tame the first girl easily because she wants you so bad (reason you need to understand better). The second girl you must concern yourself if she can really stay state side legally and emotionally. If she is asian leaving her family for a long period is suspicious. Asian girls are very close to their parents.

Tread slowly with both girls until you know them well. It is beneficial for you they know they have competition to capture you long term.

[magic2017]

well the first girl is on student visa and second girl would need some sort of visa too. The second girl is through trustworthy friend and her goal is if we both like eachother she could come here with intent to marry and then start studying. First one also intent on marrying too since she feels shes too old to wait and play around. I have marrying intention too but not sure which one. The 2nd one definitely cuter and younger while first one already here and finishing school..

[Bradwin]

I think the second girl will incur a lot of expenses on you. The second girl needs to go to school, so you will be spending so much money on her. Moreover, she's is another country and there are chances the relationship won't work. So it's best to go for the local girl.

[magic2017]

I think the second girl will incur a lot of expenses on you. The second girl needs to go to school, so you will be spending so much money on her. Moreover, she's is another country and there are chances the relationship won't work. So it's best to go for the local girl.

yeah that is something i am dwelling too. I think less of the expense since her family has some money. But i am more concerned about the time. I do want to start a family soon too. But second girl is committed since she is coming to visit and if things work out she would stay...