I have been dating this guy for a while and we started with a phone relationship we live in two different states. He always talks about ex girlfriends but one more than the others.
I found out he sends cards to this one ex for all occasions even their old anniversary.
He gives her money for her son for school clothes and his b-day about $250 dollars every Sept. And still takes this ex (his first love) on vacations.
While I was dating him on the phone long distance red flags were always going up but of course I started falling in love with this guy.
So I went to finally meet up with him to come stay with him for a few weeks and when I got there as soon as I walked in the door there was a shrine of pics all over his wall unit of his ex and pics of them together through the years and photo albums of her & his trips that he has taken her on even after they even broke up.
I was outraged cuz I thought how disrespectful of him to do that to me as he knew I was coming. He tried to explain that they're JUST FRIENDS and I've got nothing to worry about. When I went into his house he even had a box with her name on it with all the stuff she has given him over the years it was right out where I could see it.
I put it in the back of my mind and spent the rest of the two weeks with him and everything was good and that we wanted to move into together.
So I pack up and moved in with him.
In the mean time I found out that he has saved every email she has wrote him in a personal file with her name on it on his computer. Also found out he left his house to her also and not his family.
BTW is now the house I live in with him.
He continued to text and write her while we were together saying you'll see she's JUST a FRIEND.
It made me real unsure about us. And I didn't understand how he could do that to me?
So I left him for a couple of months but he made me all kinds of promises that he would wipe this person away from our lives. So I went back to him and I still didn't feel safe with him holding my heart.
So much resentment built up with me and how he could be so careless I thought with my heart. So we fought a lot about those issues other wise the rest of our life was great!
But I still didn't feel he was my soft place to fall. A lot of Jealousy I have now...because of him.
Which I have never been a jealous person really before him.
Ok here is my question I have left him again and he is making promise to me that it will be different. I love him so much and only think of just him but I don't know if I should go back to him?
My heart telling me yes, jump! and my head is telling me I don't know if that will be a good thing to do for myself...cuz he's got me so emotional messed up?
And can I trust him with my heart when he has been so careless with it.
What do you think I should do?
I found out he sends cards to this one ex for all occasions even their old anniversary.
He gives her money for her son for school clothes and his b-day about $250 dollars every Sept. And still takes this ex (his first love) on vacations.
While I was dating him on the phone long distance red flags were always going up but of course I started falling in love with this guy.
So I went to finally meet up with him to come stay with him for a few weeks and when I got there as soon as I walked in the door there was a shrine of pics all over his wall unit of his ex and pics of them together through the years and photo albums of her & his trips that he has taken her on even after they even broke up.
I was outraged cuz I thought how disrespectful of him to do that to me as he knew I was coming. He tried to explain that they're JUST FRIENDS and I've got nothing to worry about. When I went into his house he even had a box with her name on it with all the stuff she has given him over the years it was right out where I could see it.
I put it in the back of my mind and spent the rest of the two weeks with him and everything was good and that we wanted to move into together.
So I pack up and moved in with him.
In the mean time I found out that he has saved every email she has wrote him in a personal file with her name on it on his computer. Also found out he left his house to her also and not his family.
BTW is now the house I live in with him.
He continued to text and write her while we were together saying you'll see she's JUST a FRIEND.
It made me real unsure about us. And I didn't understand how he could do that to me?
So I left him for a couple of months but he made me all kinds of promises that he would wipe this person away from our lives. So I went back to him and I still didn't feel safe with him holding my heart.
So much resentment built up with me and how he could be so careless I thought with my heart. So we fought a lot about those issues other wise the rest of our life was great!
But I still didn't feel he was my soft place to fall. A lot of Jealousy I have now...because of him.
Which I have never been a jealous person really before him.
Ok here is my question I have left him again and he is making promise to me that it will be different. I love him so much and only think of just him but I don't know if I should go back to him?
My heart telling me yes, jump! and my head is telling me I don't know if that will be a good thing to do for myself...cuz he's got me so emotional messed up?
And can I trust him with my heart when he has been so careless with it.
What do you think I should do?
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