Is He Getting Too Used To Me?

[Rachael]

Last night I was video chatting with my boyfriend of one and a half years and I was only wearing a towel. I accidentally dropped my towel and all he said was "Eh, I see it all the time".

What is that supposed to mean?

I'm so confused and distraught now. We have discussed getting married but if he finds me unattractive anymore I don't know what to do. Is he getting too used to me?

What should I do?

I have lost sexual desire towards him in just that single comment, but it was his immediate reaction to me being fully naked and so vulnerable and it tore me to pieces.

[Nicolas]

A few important things here...

1... His comment does not mean he does not find you attractive anymore... it does mean he is lacking in the "things you never say to a woman department"... and that is a different topic.

2... His comment does mean that he feels like the "chase" aspect of your relationship is lacking.

He needs to feel like he is "winning" you... like you are a “high value woman” who is desired by other man and like he is damned fortunate to have you.

Now... whether you ARE high value is actually immaterial... and his comment means he is kind of "settled in" a bit and you are going to have to do some work to get that spark going again.

Especially if you plan on getting married.

3... I say this a lot... and his comment did not tear you to pieces... he made a comment... YOU felt torn to pieces... by saying he tore you to pieces you are making him the "villain" of the piece and he is not... AND you are giving him a level of power over you as a person that he should not have to shoulder.

Do not measure your self "S" by his comment... and make him "chase" you.

It happens to often in relationships where two partners become "comfortable" with each other and the spark of "seduction" dies.

And I have to be honest with you "S" if a simple comment likes this can shatter your personal esteem... how are you going to handle marriage?

I suggest the Woman has some "thinking" to do.

[Brett]

There are so many women out there who are just terrified of being in the bedroom. These are the women who are unable to get in touch with their sexuality and to really blow a man's mind. If you are one of these women who are afraid of taking control in the bedroom and being a force for your man to reckon with then you need some help to change your point of view and abilities.

No matter what kind of woman you used to be, you are going to transform today. You are going to learn exactly how to drive your man crazy sexually and how to give him amazing pleasure. In order to make this happen, you are going to learn the hottest and naughtiest sex tips to have him craving more.

The best and hottest sex tip to use on your man to drive him wild is to tease him. The more anticipation you create and the more you excite him, the better. When you get your man all hot and bothered, this makes him want you bad. However, if you make it so he can't have you at that very moment, this will drive him crazy and will have him going wild. Men love a challenge and they appreciate a woman who is unafraid to challenge him. Be that woman and this will easily drive your man crazy sexually.

Another super sexy way to get your man wanting more is to give him that raw, passionate love that he is craving. It's time to turn off the good girl switch and to get a little naughty with him. When you have some rough sex and allow your inhibitions to let loose, you are able to appreciate and explore sex in a better fashion. Having you both getting lost in the moment and being controlled by your sexual desires will have your man begging for an experience like that again.

There are other super sexy things that you can do for your man including introducing some kinky things into the bedroom. Tying him up with handcuffs for foreplay will be something new for him. It takes away his sense of touch and sense of control so therefore, it heightens every other sense in his body. He will respond better to pleasure and be more inclined to want it.

Use these sex tips for women on your man tonight and you will give him something that will not only be out of this world, but that will be something he never expected.

[Rachael]

Thank you all for the advice.