Help!! Is he interested or being nice??

[Starbright]

I'm not sure how to handle my feelings with a co worker. I'm pretty positive there is attraction but I'm so scared that I'm mis reading him even though the signs he is interested are there.

it all started when we were working together one night. I was in a new position by myself and needed help dealing with customers. I called him after the 20th time and asked how much do you love me. Yeah, I know... who asks that. I sincerely didn't mean anything by it other then I hope you don't mind helping me AGAIN. His reply was immediate saying a lot with a pause then more then you know. Totally not what I was expecting. But may be I put him in an awkward place by asking this? But again you would think there would be awkwardness. You have to understand this guy is always smiling at me and whenever we greet he winks. This happens allllll the time. I brushed it off as it's him... must be how he says hi.

then the same night I said to him how much do you love me... I thanked him for all his help and that I hopefully won't be a pain in the butt much longer and he replies you're never a pain in the butt... in a sweet soft tone... but to me I don't think anything of it at the time... he's being nice.

then we meet in the break room a few days later and I thank him for his help again for another day we worked together. I said it's so frustrating I have to bother you so much. He was overwhelmingly re assuring that it was fine. But it was the sweet gentle tone but made me uncomfortable kind of a way i think because i felt like it was receiving more attention and a reply then I expected. Again nothing I can bank feelings on...

Then after almost a week of not seeing him, he says I haven't seen you in a while. Have you been off. This guy knows the schedule he's the manager who approves time off etc. I think the way he interacted in this convo made me realize this guy may have a thing for me. He stood there at a slight distance talking to me waiting for me to punch in and walk by him.

a few days may be even a week later we see each other and for whatever reason I lock eyes with this guy. He did his usual wink and big smiles... but we held each other's eye contact to the point it felt like forever. This sustained eye contact has happened everytime we see each other since.

I don't know if I'm thinking into this more then I should but now I notice that if he gets a chance without co workers noticing, he comes around or he watches from a distance. The other night he stood in front of where I work for a while pretending to be busy but if catch him glancing over.

what am I feeling... I honestly have worked with this person for a year and half and never would have imagined this situation.

I'm at the point now... I'm scared to look at him because if the feelings aren't mutual I don't want to send him signals that I like him and make a fool of myself. I'm very nervous around this guy too which isn't helping.

someone help me straighten my head.

thanks!!!

[Nicolas]

I'm at the point now... I'm scared to look at him because if the feelings aren't mutual I don't want to send him signals that I like him and make a fool of myself. I'm very nervous around this guy too which isn't helping.

thanks!!!

Hi,

From the information you gave, it's obvious that you both are attracted to each other. No doubt, he feels the same way you feel, he's attracted to you as well.

However, I strongly advice you don't send any signal to him that you have feelings for him. Simply act cool and relax anytime you see him, and let him be the one to initiate a connection. What I'm simply saying is that you should let him be the one to express how he feels about you.

The fact is that men value what they word hard to get.

[Starbright]

Thanks. I thought so. I honestly thought it's in my head. I'm just playing it cool as best as I can. I don't want to make the first moves.

[Barry]

You know when a guy is interested in you when he tries to make you laugh whenever you are sad. He is sensitive to your moods and feelings and when you are sad, he tries to make you laugh or feel good. Maybe your friends or people close to you are doing the same to cheer you up, but you will notice that with him there is a difference. He will do things that you really like just to put a smile on your face and to really make you feel good about yourself. It doesn't matter if he needs to do things he does not usually do as long as he can make you smile again, he is willing to exert extra efforts just for you.

You know when a guy is interested in you when he is interested even on little things about you. You will find it surprising that he is interested even on the smallest thing about you. He will ask you about your family, siblings, what you were like when you were just a kid, the things that you like and dislike. You will notice that he is trying to know you more and more everyday and he wants to get close to you.

You know when a guy is interested in you when you can feel his presence all the time. He makes excuses or looking for reasons just to be with you. If he is a co-worker, he wants to eat lunch with you on a regular basis and be able to talk to you as well. If he is a schoolmate, he wants to be able to see you in school everyday or be able to walk you home. In other words, he wants to see you and spend time with you almost everyday. If you are not in the same circle, he makes an effort to see you or spend time with you. If he is not physically present, he will contact you or make his presence be felt. He will send text messages, email and call or do something for you to feel his presence. It is like you are part of his daily life.

You know when a guy is interested in you when he listens and always there for you. He is there to listen and help you if you need help. Others may be there for you when things are going smoothly and makes excuses when you are in trouble and needs help but you will notice that he is consistently supportive whenever you need someone.

You know when a guy is interested in you when he treats you like a lady. He maybe naturally nice and acts so friendly to everyone around him but with you, he is not just being nice but he treats you like a lady and gives you the respect you deserve. A man who is really smitten by you respects you and treats you like a lady.

[Shirley]

Chivalrous gentlemen are quite rare nowadays but they still do exist. So if a man is being extra nice with you, you tend to question whether he's just being courteous or he already likes you. Here are ways to tell if a man is really into you! Pay very close attention to these...

There's a tinge of nervousness about him.
This man will always feel nervous when you're around because he tries so hard to impress you. A man who's just being courteous won't feel an ounce of nervousness because, simply put, there's no need to prove himself to you.

He will exert efforts in impressing you.
He has his eyes on you that's why he needs to prove that he's the right one for you. Being courteous is a great part of his plan to impress you and so do many other things that he's willing to do for you.

He'll want to make you laugh.
Since he likes you so much, he will try to prove to you that he's got a great sense of humor. This man simply wants to make you believe that there wouldn't be any dull moments with him. A man will never make any special efforts to keep you happy unless he has special feelings towards you.

He will notice everything that's nice about you.
He will say that you've got the sweetest voice, the most gorgeous looks, and the most outstanding fajita in town! This man is so taken by you that all he sees are the nicest things that you can do.

He'll want to discover every bit of information about you.
He's also the type of man who will let you talk when you converse with each other. He won't emphasize on himself and his achievements, instead, he'll be more interested in digging for more info about you.

Your presence is all he wants.
This man will want to spend all of his extra time with you. Going out with his guy friends is at the very back of his mind lately because all he's interested in is discovering every bit of info about you.

He's 100-percent focused on you.
Since he likes you so much, this guy's attention span will be miraculously lengthened. He's not just being courteous anymore, he's attentive and obviously much more loving. Every bit of his body language confirms one thing - you're the woman that he's eyeing right now so nothing else matters.